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I never had good experience with men. I dated guys who were dating their ex behind my back. I dated guys who were married and hid it from me. I dated guys who were abusive. I dated guys who i thought were the most loyal and moral but turned out to be a two timer. And I didn't jump from one relationship to the next. I always left myself for at least 6 months to a year before I dated again. I always reflected on my experience. Yet it always went terribly. I got hit on by older married men. I got harrassed by older male co-worker. What is it about me that tells men I don't deserve love??
I love my dad as a daughter. I dislike him as his wife's daughter. I would go so far as to say I wish my mum was with someone better. They are happy now (I think) but he never took care of my mum in any way. Never bought her birthday presents, no anniversaries, no alone time with her, not a single trip with her alone, expected her to do all the housework and barely helped. He cheated on her once with a prostitute. He's such a great dad but a complete a-hole as a husband.
I believe in love, believe that there's someone out there who is just right for me. I just got out of a relationship and working hard to improve myself and am happy to be single. After all my experience I think I still believe I can find love. But i don't want to let men dictate my happiness.
But how could they not dictate my happiness if i truly loved them? need some wisdom here.
I never had good experience with men. I dated guys who were dating their ex behind my back. I dated guys who were married and hid it from me. I dated guys who were abusive. I dated guys who i thought were the most loyal and moral but turned out to be a two timer. And I didn't jump from one relationship to the next. I always left myself for at least 6 months to a year before I dated again. I always reflected on my experience. Yet it always went terribly. I got hit on by older married men. I got harrassed by older male co-worker. What is it about me that tells men I don't deserve love??
I love my dad as a daughter. I dislike him as his wife's daughter. I would go so far as to say I wish my mum was with someone better. They are happy now (I think) but he never took care of my mum in any way. Never bought her birthday presents, no anniversaries, no alone time with her, not a single trip with her alone, expected her to do all the housework and barely helped. He cheated on her once with a prostitute. He's such a great dad but a complete a-hole as a husband.
I believe in love, believe that there's someone out there who is just right for me. I just got out of a relationship and working hard to improve myself and am happy to be single. After all my experience I think I still believe I can find love. But i don't want to let men dictate my happiness.
But how could they not dictate my happiness if i truly loved them? need some wisdom here.
No one should dictate your happiness. Google "reflected sense of self."
There's a line in a cheesy teen movie I saw that was something like "we accept the love we think we deserve." So in a conscious or subconscious way you are drawn to this kind of men because you think you deserve them. Either you've got the worst picker in history, or you're overlooking a lot of suspect behavior and red flags for the sake of having a man.
There's a line in a cheesy teen movie I saw that was something like "we accept the love we think we deserve." So in a conscious or subconscious way you are drawn to this kind of men because you think you deserve them. Either you've got the worst picker in history, or you're overlooking a lot of suspect behavior and red flags for the sake of having a man.
Yeah i always saw red flags early on but ignored it because i thought i "liked them too much" and just told myself everything would be ok. Later on I would tell myself they would change but they never did. I learned my lessons now.
I understand that but when someone you love betrays you, it's hard not to be affected by it greatly.
Sure, but there's a difference in being temporarily upset emotionally and letting someone affect who you are and how you interact with others, such as ignoring red flags.
Sure, but there's a difference in being temporarily upset emotionally and letting someone affect who you are and how you interact with others, such as ignoring red flags.
Is it worth of risk of having emotional trauma to be with someone and have a life together? :'(
I believe in love, believe that there's someone out there who is just right for me. I just got out of a relationship and working hard to improve myself and am happy to be single. After all my experience I think I still believe I can find love. But i don't want to let men dictate my happiness.
But how could they not dictate my happiness if i truly loved them? need some wisdom here.
A man can't make you happy. Your happiness is your responsibility.
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need some wisdom here.
