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This is what you have been doing, hence the recommendation for therapy so you can explore why.
I did find myself telling myself i need to find someone who treats me like how my dad treats me. He IS a great dad and cares about me. When I was in boarding school, he would drive for hours everyweek just to see me. He spent all his life saving on my education overseas. But we were not very close like friends. He was a very strict dad and I was a rebel. Sometimes I thought i was the wife.
You need therapy to rewire the thought processes in your brain. When you witness things like you did when you were a kid, your brain wiring gets messed up and you choose people who will put you through the same type of trauma again.
I did find myself telling myself i need to find someone who treats me like how my dad treats me. He IS a great dad and cares about me. When I was in boarding school, he would drive for hours everyweek just to see me. He spent all his life saving on my education overseas. But we were not very close like friends. He was a very strict dad and I was a rebel. Sometimes I thought i was the wife.
So ... is this thread about your love life or your DAD???
Perhaps because you're more like your mother than you realize? She clearly settled on a bad choice.
I don't know. I consider myself a career woman and my mum is a traditional house wife who tho still works but earns peanuts. I did grow up seeing how she put up with my dad. Never seen her truly enjoy her life. She just complained about life all the time and how dad was always angry with her.
Ive seen it mentioned on here before and I've never understood this......
If a person has witnessed abuse first hand or has seen it whilst being brought up, then surely it's the best deterrent possible to Avoid that type and not the other way round?
Could someone please explain it ( in layman terms )
I have insurance for CBT i don't have money for relationship therapy tho
You don't need "relationship therapy." It's just the stuff within you that you need help with. You need help rebuilding your sense of self.
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