Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
Around 4 months ago he told me that he's "chatting" with someone on his phone. I kinda knew what he really meant. He said that they are "just friends and nothing much". I sorta believed him, but I sensed that something was not right. Btw, at that time, I was falling in love with him even more.
After that, no more texts from him. Nothing. He still hasn't removed me from Snapchat though. And that's about it. I didn't put myself down to text him back (I hate being a beggar, a desperate). I wasn't really feeling that doleful at the start. But now, after a few months, I started to yearn (and mourn) for him so much. I also see him in my dreams almost every night. It's like our love didn't take its course and was cut short unfairly.
Whilst I want him back so much (let's be real, I am still dizzily in love with him and depressed over him), I just want to know if there is a way to "erase" your ex? What kind of therapy would help with this?
In my experience, there is no way to "erase" an ex.
However, you can train yourself to get over it quicker by forcing yourself to STOP the thought as it happens and think another thought.
Do not wallow in the memories of him, going over them again and again.
Every.single.time he comes into your mind, do SOMETHING to make yourself stop the thought. Even if you actually have to say, "Stop!"
Then make yourself think of something else. And of course, you should get rid of stuff that reminds you of him. Certainly block him on ALL social media.
You probably will be surprised at how often you do this at first, how often you "let" yourself go back in time, but following the tricks to get rid of obsessive thoughts will help.
I think that cutting things off all together can sometimes make it worse. That's my experience, anyway. Especially if there is s chance of running into one another in social situations.
OP, that sucks and my heart goes out to you. It's not easy. I think time is the best remedy along with friends you can count on. Sometimes, you just need to talk it out or do things that take your mind off of things. Dive into work or take a class.
Around 4 months ago he told me that he's "chatting" with someone on his phone. I kinda knew what he really meant. He said that they are "just friends and nothing much". I sorta believed him, but I sensed that something was not right. Btw, at that time, I was falling in love with him even more.
After that, no more texts from him. Nothing. He still hasn't removed me from Snapchat though. And that's about it. I didn't put myself down to text him back (I hate being a beggar, a desperate). I wasn't really feeling that doleful at the start. But now, after a few months, I started to yearn (and mourn) for him so much. I also see him in my dreams almost every night. It's like our love didn't take its course and was cut short unfairly.
Whilst I want him back so much (let's be real, I am still dizzily in love with him and depressed over him), I just want to know if there is a way to "erase" your ex? What kind of therapy would help with this?
I'm sorry you're going through this mate .
In my opinion the very best therapy/solution possible is to meet someone else. Your ex will of course be in your thoughts as they were apart of your life but they become more and more distant as time goes by.
Even if you are not ready to move on emotionally the company of someone else really does take your mind off it, Ive been quite beat up and down a few times by a few break ups and honestly meeting someone new helped me no end not only to get over an ex but to move forward with my life
I know you are a nice bloke so I really hope things get better for you mate
In my experience, there is no way to "erase" an ex.
However, you can train yourself to get over it quicker by forcing yourself to STOP the thought as it happens and think another thought.
Do not wallow in the memories of him, going over them again and again.
Every.single.time he comes into your mind, do SOMETHING to make yourself stop the thought. Even if you actually have to say, "Stop!"
Then make yourself think of something else. And of course, you should get rid of stuff that reminds you of him. Certainly block him on ALL social media.
You probably will be surprised at how often you do this at first, how often you "let" yourself go back in time, but following the tricks to get rid of obsessive thoughts will help.
good advice. also remember that all relationships are by nature, temporary. whether it is that we just decide we dont want to be together again, or one moves away, or one gets married to someone else, or one dies, no matter how you cut it, relationships are temporary in nature. once you understand that bit of information, it makes it much easier to get on with your life.
Thinking of exes cause me emotional pain and I tell myself I want to be happy so that usually helps me not think of them. Even if I think of them I just appreciate the good moments we've had but I wouldn't contact them. I have been craving for my last ex to contact me again and it would be nice but I don't dwell on it. I acknowledge the desire but I keep looking forward.
Around 4 months ago he told me that he's "chatting" with someone on his phone. I kinda knew what he really meant. He said that they are "just friends and nothing much". I sorta believed him, but I sensed that something was not right. Btw, at that time, I was falling in love with him even more.
After that, no more texts from him. Nothing. He still hasn't removed me from Snapchat though. And that's about it. I didn't put myself down to text him back (I hate being a beggar, a desperate). I wasn't really feeling that doleful at the start. But now, after a few months, I started to yearn (and mourn) for him so much. I also see him in my dreams almost every night. It's like our love didn't take its course and was cut short unfairly.
Whilst I want him back so much (let's be real, I am still dizzily in love with him and depressed over him), I just want to know if there is a way to "erase" your ex? What kind of therapy would help with this?
Figure out what emotional issues you have that are causing you to continue to have feelings for a guy who treated you poorly and chose another woman over you. You will probably need therapy for this because it is probably something to do with your relationship, or lack thereof, with your parents. Once you have dealt with these issues, magically, you will not pine for him anymore.
Was this just an internet/social media relationship?
__________________ ____________________________________________
My posts as a Mod will always be in red.
Be sure to review Terms of Service: TOS
And check this out: FAQ
Moderator: Relationships Forum / Hawaii Forum / Dogs / Pets / Current Events
To be more specific, he actually loved me a lot. He was the one more obsessed with me at first. Before that we were just friends. I did find him cute, but I didn't have feelings for him. He made a "move" on me, started calling me, said he wants me, etc. So I gave him a go and I noticed that two months later I became so in love with him!
I feel like our relationship was a lie. All these kisses, huge compliments, intimate moments...were NOTHING. How could he forget all this? Where did I go wrong?
I hear that exes come back a lot of times (yeah, wishful thinking I guess). I am waiting for that day, even though, at the same time, I really do want to move on.
Quote:
Originally Posted by Mikala43
Was this just an internet/social media relationship?
No. I wish it was. Because it's easier forgetting eulogistic and intimate text messages than physical contact (kissing, making love, etc).
Last edited by Ethereal; 02-26-2016 at 06:00 PM..
Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. It is free and quick. Over $68,000 in prizes has already been given out to active posters on our forum. Additional giveaways are planned.
Detailed information about all U.S. cities, counties, and zip codes on our site: City-data.com.
Please register to participate in our discussions with 2 million other members - it's free and quick! Some forums can only be seen by registered members. After you create your account, you'll be able to customize options and access all our 15,000 new posts/day with fewer ads.
. 
