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I met someone online recently that just got out of prison about 6 months ago. Seems he has a few issues to work through, but other than that seems like a really good guy. Has anyone ever dated someone that had been in prison, for something more serious than a DUI? Did you find it off putting that they had a record?
Up to this point, I've decided not to pursue anything but friendship with him, simply because of said issues, but I'd like some input on this please.
I have taken years of criminology study and one thing that always stuck out to me, that might reflect on the hypocritical style posts above me is this..........Most all adult people in this country have violated the law in a capacity, at some point in their life, that would warrant a felony conviction. Only most of these crimes went unknown or were never discovered. And in many, if not most cases, the person violating these crimes did not know they were crimes. We have thousands of thousands of Federal and state laws on the books. With that said, for me, it would depend. Was it a violent crime? did they intend intentional harm to another innocent person? Or did they forge Grandma's check when they were 19 and learn a valued lesson from it? You get the idea here. Lumping all people who "have done time" in the same basket, is no different then calling all Muslims terrorists.
So for me, the answer is yes and no. I would date a woman who was in prison if she was changed and learned from her screwup. Assuming the crime was not violent in nature, or involved malicious acts towards innocent people. There are a lot of very good people sitting in our prisons. Most belong there, many do not.
I have taken years of criminology study and one thing that always stuck out to me, that might reflect on the hypocritical style posts above me is this..........Most all adult people in this country have violated the law in a capacity, at some point in their life, that would warrant a felony conviction. Only most of these crimes went unknown or were never discovered. And in many, if not most cases, the person violating these crimes did not know they were crimes. We have thousands of thousands of Federal and state laws on the books. With that said, for me, it would depend. Was it a violent crime? did they intend intentional harm to another innocent person? Or did they forge Grandma's check when they were 19 and learn a valued lesson from it? You get the idea here. Lumping all people who "have done time" in the same basket, is no different then calling all Muslims terrorists.
So for me, the answer is yes and no. I would date a woman who was in prison if she was changed and learned from her screwup. Assuming the crime was not violent in nature, or involved malicious acts towards innocent people. There are a lot of very good people sitting in our prisons. Most belong there, many do not.
That's absurd. You claim to have taken "years of Criminology" but yet you claim that most adults in this country have committed felonies? Wrong. Not even close to being right. Maybe what you meant to say is that most adults have committed crimes. But even if this were true--and it isn't--they would be misdemeanors at best. And I'd say it's far closer to the truth to say that maybe one out of three adults have gotten away with a midemeanor in their life. As far as getting away with a felony, the stats would be one out of 10 at best. This Hardly consitutes "most."
You need to get a refund if you paid for any of those criminoolgy classes.
I dated a guy who had been in prison before. He had a seriously fine body, but his mind was not in the building. Needless to say it didn't go anywhere. Now would I do it again? Maybe...
That's absurd. You claim to have taken "years of Criminology" but yet you claim that most adults in this country have committed felonies? Wrong. Not even close to being right. Maybe what you meant to say is that most adults have committed crimes. But even if this were true--and it isn't--they would be misdemeanors at best. And I'd say it's far closer to the truth to say that maybe one out of three adults have gotten away with a midemeanor in their life. As far as getting away with a felony, the stats would be one out of 10 at most. Hardly "most."
You need to get a refund if you paid for any of those criminoolgy classes.
Do some google searches and read for yourself. Do you have a clue how many federal laws there are? Ever caught a fish that was too small and kept it? Every struck your kid in a moment of rage, ever poured oil into the wrong container, ever imported lobster in a bag instead of a box, ever opened someone elses email, ever lied.....JUST A LITTLE on your loan application, or tax return, ever played dominos on Sunday, ever had sex with a pocupine, ever hunted from a motorboat, ever left a dead animal on the side of the road you hit in a federal park, ever ........ I could go on for 9000 pages!
I know several people who were sent to prison for possession of small amounts of illegal substances such as marijuana and it ruined their entire lives. The problem is that once you have a criminal record and you're an ex-convict the possibilities of a good job and a promising future have been destroyed. I don't believe that our current system is fair because a young person who bought a certain amount of pot many years ago is categorized in the same manner as a convicted murderer or rapist. Also, mandatory sentencing guidelines have caused individuals to spend more time in prison for possessing drugs than they would have received if they had raped someone.
As someone else mentioned, it depends on what they did. If this individual was convicted of a violent crime I think it would be wise to stay away from them but you need to consider what they actually were put in prison for.
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