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I have been married twenty years. Our relationship has been pretty good. It has ups and downs, but I have suspected he has cheated from time to time. I have always stayed because of my kids, and most likely always will. The last couple of years things have taken a hard turn between him and I though. He is no longer very interested in my physically. I have tried everything. I am 38 years old, and no I'm no longer a spring chicken-but neither is he to be fair. I wear make up and keep myself up. He is not very physically fit(I'm not saying that to be mean, and know I'm far from perfect). I'm just saying I don't think I should be rejected because I have aged. However, I know there is some reason he is rejecting me that way. We have talked, and I just get a bunch of flimsy rescues. He is constantly on his phone playing Clash of Clans and such(and that's about when he stopped being interested in spending time alone with me), so maybe that is just taking over his life? I'm so tired of crying and feeling alone. So what I'm wondering is from a person who has been through this-does the rejection ever begin to hurt less and how do you keep from being resentful? Is it even possible?? Thank you for any advice.
...He is constantly on his phone playing Clash of Clans and such.... I'm so tired of crying and feeling alone.
So what I'm wondering is from a person who has been through this-does the rejection ever begin to hurt less and how do you keep from being resentful? Is it even possible?? Thank you for any advice.
Well millions of kids and teens play clash of the clans! Oh...you said this is your husband. That's different.
Yes the rejection begins to hurt less, you can keep from getting resentful by not caring about how you're treated, and practice at that does makes perfect. Soon you will start developing your own hobbies or interests, finding out you can deal with the kids by yourself, watching you tube videos to learn how to fix things...then one day: Light Bulb! You're already living like a single mother --why not make it official.
Have you considered marriage counseling? If you want to save your marriage you'll have to put some effort into it.
Have you become very overweight? Perhaps?
sometimes it's not even about your aging though that's often the case,but that men generally find it monotonous to sleep with the same woman for twenty years.
Have you become very overweight? Perhaps?
sometimes it's not even about your aging though that's often the case,but that men generally find it monotonous to sleep with the same woman for twenty years.
I'd say this is probably it. If she's overweight it is much more difficult for intimacy and if he doesn't love her then it's even more so.
If he's cheated then bounce. Sheesh. No reason to stay with him especially for the kids sake.
I have been married twenty years. Our relationship has been pretty good. It has ups and downs, but I have suspected he has cheated from time to time. I have always stayed because of my kids, and most likely always will. The last couple of years things have taken a hard turn between him and I though. He is no longer very interested in my physically. I have tried everything. I am 38 years old, and no I'm no longer a spring chicken-but neither is he to be fair. I wear make up and keep myself up. He is not very physically fit(I'm not saying that to be mean, and know I'm far from perfect). I'm just saying I don't think I should be rejected because I have aged. However, I know there is some reason he is rejecting me that way. We have talked, and I just get a bunch of flimsy rescues. He is constantly on his phone playing Clash of Clans and such(and that's about when he stopped being interested in spending time alone with me), so maybe that is just taking over his life? I'm so tired of crying and feeling alone. So what I'm wondering is from a person who has been through this-does the rejection ever begin to hurt less and how do you keep from being resentful? Is it even possible?? Thank you for any advice.
You mean, "flimsy excuses", right? If he's uncommunicative about it, the next step is to tell him that marriage counseling is in order to avoid divorce. You can explain that if he's not willing to discuss the issue openly and honestly, the two of you will have to hire a facilitator, because you don't want to give up on the marriage. You'd like to work on it.
See how he reacts. Report back. If he declines counseling, he's telling you he's just not into the marriage anymore.
Gosh that second article I cannot believe the advice given,the husband has told her flat out he does not love her in any way and she wonders why he's not having sex with her? she also readily admits that he only married her because she was pregnant and they just suffer through it.
advice given to her,oh it's probably erectile dysfunction...my gosh.ha
Have you become very overweight? Perhaps?
sometimes it's not even about your aging though that's often the case,but that men generally find it monotonous to sleep with the same woman for twenty years.
Ya know what? Most guys pack it on too....and as if women don't want some variety? It's easier to stay with the same man if he at least changes up the sexual "routine" so it's not the same 3 things in the same order every time!
Both men AND women have to cope with the same types of things...men don't have it any worse than women so no reason to make excuses for them.
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