Can a guy be "unapproachable"? (date, women, single)
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[SIZE=3][/SIZE][SIZE=3]So I went on a trip to the East recently and just couldn’t help but having a session with a mystic for a general life reading. One of the things she told me was that I have many admirers but I am unapproachable. Now,for a guy who asks himself (as do so very many of my friends) why he’s still single, this is an interesting concept. How can a guy be unapproachable? That’s almost an oxymoron, after all as a guy I’m the one who’s supposed to be doing the approaching! [/SIZE]
[SIZE=3][/SIZE][SIZE=3]Here’s the scenario: In any social setting, both girls and guys scout each other out. When a guy looks at a girl he finds attractive he’s hoping for some sign that an advance would be welcome. Does she smile? Glance and then look away? Mirror body image? Then HE makes the approach. What seems to be happening (if indeed I’m admired?) is that the girl of my status, whose persona would match mine perfectly and is looking for a potential date is actually choosing not to give out hints that she finds me attractive?? Or I’m not seeing It - as a person very much ruled by the head I admittedly lack that intuitionwhich would enable me to read a women’s psychic brainwaves. I’m wired forlogic, plain and simple and need to actually see a smile, friendly glance eyecontact, which on the face of it seems quite reasonable??[/SIZE]
[SIZE=3][/SIZE][SIZE=3]This is indeed a bizarre situation. Yes I am a very successful, ivy league trained, internationally well-travelled graduate professional.I think my body is in great shape - I look just as good in a pair of jeans as Ido in a tux. (I should, I eat very healthily, work out almost daily and am dedicatedto a very intense sport). I am also unashamedly metrosexual. (My suits are Italian, my fine fragrances French and I colour and metal coordinate the Swiss watches I wear). I have a weekly facial and manscape regularly) and I subscribeto GQ and Esquire which reflect the very refined tastes I have. I’m fine withthe label “pretty boy”. [/SIZE]
[SIZE=3][/SIZE][SIZE=3]Because I know I score heavily on many of the aspects a woman would want, this probably comes through in my confidence. Is it possible that beforegetting to know me, women are already lumping me into the arrogant/”God’s giftto Women” category? Are women automatically assuming that a “hunk” (a word my PT used to describe me when I started this conversation with her …lol) has an ego to match? [If so how do I get out of this bias] Or does this reflect insecurities that women have where they fear that the super-attractive guy would leave her for someone else and are therefore less trustworthy? [/SIZE]
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Actually for a stranger there was a great deal of truth about my life she was able to tell. I was sceptical but not any more - I don't know what's there, but there's definitely something to it.
Sup guy. I bet you're the guy that was fired from his last job because you made things super awkward with your coworkers, and made all those other weird threads about your cray cray sex drive and what-not.
So, a tea leaf reader said you're too hot to approach?
Is that what you got out of that mess? Is he on fire?
OP: anyone can be unapproachable for any number of reasons and one of the reasons is body language.
If you present yourself as unapproachable then you will be so you get to decide what happens next.
Newsflash: genuinely attractive guys get approached all the time so if it's not happening for you....it's definitely not coz you're too handsome!
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. Now,for a guy who asks himself (as do so very many of my friends) why he’s still single, this is an interesting concept. How can a guy be unapproachable
? That’s almost an oxymoron, after all as a guy I’m the one who’s supposed to be doing the approaching! [/SIZE]
. Yes I am a very successful, ivy league trained, internationally well-travelled graduate professional.I think my body is in great shape - I look just as good in a pair of jeans as Ido in a tux. (I should, I eat very healthily, work out almost daily and am dedicatedto a very intense sport). I am also unashamedly metrosexual. (My suits are Italian, my fine fragrances French and I colour and metal coordinate the Swiss watches I wear). I have a weekly facial and manscape regularly) and I subscribeto GQ and Esquire which reflect the very refined tastes I have. I’m fine withthe label “pretty boy”. [/SIZE]
? Are women automatically assuming that a “hunk” (a word my PT used to describe me when I started this conversation with her …lol) has an ego to match? [If so how do I get out of this bias] Or does this reflect insecurities that women have where they fear that the super-attractive guy would leave her for someone else and are therefore less trustworthy? [/SIZE]
