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I guess I should clarify that the people that have grown on me were people that I spent a lot of time with - whether through school or work or mutual friends. They didn't grow on me while I was dating them. What I mean is - I never dated someone that I wasn't actually attracted to in the hopes that they would grow on me. I spent time with these guys, they grew on me, I realized I was very attracted to them, and then we would go from there.
Yep.
Nope.
That never happened to me either.
In fact, when well-meaning relatives and busybodies would say things like, "give him a chance, maybe he'll grow on you," my response was, "you mean like a fungus?"
In fact, when well-meaning relatives and busybodies would say things like, "give him a chance, maybe he'll grow on you," my response was, "you mean like a fungus?"
Well, I've never had anyone forcefully grow on me - if you know what I mean. I've never purposely tried to give someone a chance in the hope that attraction would grow.
By that I mean at first meet, he or she is, well, just another person. You've most likely never looked at them a second time - even if you did, you friend-zoned the person..
But as time passes, you find yourself becoming interested in him or her. slowly. Before you realize it, you're striking up a conversation, getting to know them better. Eventually, you're asking them out to coffee, lunch, or even dinner.
Experiences?
A couple notable experiences started out with not liking each other at all. Just plain old genuine dislike. Thoughts of becoming close and intimate were completely dismissed, out of hand. If we were in a situation where we had to interact, due to mutual friends, it was Winter in Siberia twixt us. Then, as time went on, in both these situations, one day we were in the same old same old, and suddenly, it was a 180° flip. An icefield one minute, and a wild fire the next, with neither of us having a clue as to what changed. With one, we dated and had great times for two years, and when we first met, and for some time after, we couldn't stand each other. This gal hadn't even talked to me , she was put off at introductions, and we ended up in a pretty...warm...relationship. I still don't know what changed, or why, but, I remember it , fondly. Lol
Never to me, but I just tried doing that with the last girl, me growing on her.
Yeah, it started to work about a year later, but then I realized that this shouldn't be that difficult, and hasn't ever been for me in the past. I didn't really much care for the experience and I won't be subject to this ever again.
If I like you but you say that it takes time for you to like someone, I gotta go and find someone that doesn't take time. Not fair to me.
I guess my wife and I fall here. Roommates (I was with someone else at the time) and she did her best to fit into my circle of friends. At first we had so little in common. After I broke up with GF she spent a lot of time with me.... made me feel better. After a few years we became good friends and did everything together... at some point it was kinda odd predicament. We were neither here or there... we didn't know what we had. Our friends started to assume we were a couple even before we made it official. After a lot of soul searching we both came to the realization that neither wanted to move on in life without each other.... so we stayed together and eventually got married.
I guess my wife and I fall here. Roommates (I was with someone else at the time) and she did her best to fit into my circle of friends. At first we had so little in common. After I broke up with GF she spent a lot of time with me.... made me feel better. After a few years we became good friends and did everything together... at some point it was kinda odd predicament. We were neither here or there... we didn't know what we had. Our friends started to assume we were a couple even before we made it official. After a lot of soul searching we both came to the realization that neither wanted to move on in life without each other.... so we stayed together and eventually got married.
No, although my significant other straight-up told me he likes me more now than he did when we were a new couple.
I tend to give everyone the benefit of the doubt and/or see the best in people from the get-go and they gradually chip away at that and ruin it by becoming disappointing overtime. I highly doubt I could ever grow more attracted to someone who didn't do it for me in the beginning. It's usually the opposite, like I'll find reasons why someone I found attractive would be better-suited as a friend.
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With one, we dated and had great times for two years, and when we first met, and for some time after, we couldn't stand each other. This gal hadn't even talked to me , she was put off at introductions, and we ended up in a pretty...warm...relationship. I still don't know what changed, or why, but, I remember it , fondly. Lol
