A girl sent me a picture of her and her boyfriend together (dating, woman)
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I moved to a new city and met this girl at a local book store, and started to ask her out. We had dinner for a couple of times and I flirted with her and she flirted back. Yesterday, when I texted her to ask her out for a coffee, she texted back and told me she is going out with her boyfriend and sent me a picture of them holding each other, then she call me on facetime to only show me she and her boyfriend are kissing each other. I just don't understand here, why don't she just told me upfront when we first met ,she had been taken.
I feel like she's sending you a pretty clear message, TBH.
I don't know why she didn't tell you she had a boyfriend, unless she thought you were just being friendly and not romantic at first and then got the vibe that you wanted more. There's a thread along these lines right now from the opposite direction: the poster claims he asks girls out for coffee just to get to know them as friends and that he suspects they think he wants more even though he doesn't. This is in fact a woman's conundrum quite often - is he asking me to be romantic or just to be friends or...?
Next time, be clear upfront.
As for the flirting back, some people are just flirty without intentions. What was the "flirting"?
I agree that she could have been more direct and just told you that she was unavailable for dinner because she has a BF. Then again, inasmuch as you did see this girl for the first time inside a book store, you might have been better off taking a bit more time to get a good "read" on her before proceeding further.
I feel like she's sending you a pretty clear message, TBH.
I don't know why she didn't tell you she had a boyfriend, unless she thought you were just being friendly and not romantic at first and then got the vibe that you wanted more. There's a thread along these lines right now from the opposite direction: the poster claims he asks girls out for coffee just to get to know them as friends and that he suspects they think he wants more even though he doesn't. This is in fact a woman's conundrum quite often - is he asking me to be romantic or just to be friends or...?
Next time, be clear upfront.
As for the flirting back, some people are just flirty without intentions. What was the "flirting"?
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I agree that she could have been more direct and just told you that she was unavailable for dinner because she has a BF. Then again, inasmuch as you did see this girl for the first time inside a book store, you might have been better off taking a bit more time to get a good "read" on her before proceeding further.
She told me she has broken up with her her boyfriend long time ago.
And I was pretty honest at the beginning that I was seeking a relationship , not friendship and she let me flirt with her and she flirted back. We flirted a lot , for example: I sent her some text said that I desired her and she texted back told me she wanted me too. Mixed signal here .
She told me she has broken up with her her boyfriend long time ago.
And I was pretty honest at the beginning that I was seeking a relationship , not friendship and she let me flirt with her and she flirted back. Mixed signal here .
Okay. In this case it sounds like she found someone she liked better (I am sorry) or went back to her boyfriend.
What she's sending you NOW is a very clear message.
Okay. In this case it sounds like she found someone she liked better (I am sorry) or went back to her boyfriend.
What she's sending you NOW is a very clear message.
I agree with you here , so I texted her back tell her not contact me anymore, then blocked her already. I just hope , she could simply tell she is seeing someone else. I think it's a much more polite way to tell me she is not interested anymore. I don't need to know her boyfriend or see that they are kissing each other.
Personally if that were me and she FaceTimed me kissing her fella and mislead me I'd say " oh but why did you have sex with me then? "...... I'd pretend of course and then see how cozy they are
I'm not at all a cynical or a cruel person but if someone's gone out of there way to humiliate me and make me look an idiot then it's game on as far as I'm concerned .
Bruh, you didn't just dodge a bullet, YOU DODGED A MISSILE!
She's a missile because she discovered she liked someone more than the OP?
It happens. It's not even illegal or anything.
We don't know the whole story. We don't know whether she felt interest but after some dates, she just wasn't feeling the connection. We don't know whether the OP didn't make a real move and she got tired of waiting (also allowed, all different people have all different dating styles and preferences).
She didn't lead him on and then crush his heart and ruin his life and plans. They had two meals and some texts. They weren't engaged.
Someone just not liking YOU (the universal you) after having dated a few times does not automatically make the person some sort of monster. What is dating for if not to discover who is going to work out for you and who isn't? Has the OP ever turned anyone down, or gone on a date or two and realized "this just isn't working out"? If so is he a total jerk and a missile to be dodged at all costs? Cheeses but has dating ever gotten not-fun in the decade and a half since I last did it. It didn't work out, she found someone she clicked with better, she's not exactly Elizabeth of Bathory or something, lighten up.
Good on you for moving forward, OP, and better luck with the next girl.
She's a missile because she discovered she liked someone more than the OP?
It happens. It's not even illegal or anything.
We don't know the whole story. We don't know whether she felt interest but after some dates, she just wasn't feeling the connection. We don't know whether the OP didn't make a real move and she got tired of waiting (also allowed, all different people have all different dating styles and preferences).
She didn't lead him on and then crush his heart and ruin his life and plans. They had two meals and some texts. They weren't engaged.
Someone just not liking YOU (the universal you) after having dated a few times does not automatically make the person some sort of monster. What is dating for if not to discover who is going to work out for you and who isn't? Has the OP ever turned anyone down, or gone on a.date or two.and realized "this just isn't working out"? If so is he a total jerk and a missile to be dodged at all costs?
No!
But purposely sending him pictures of her and her new BF instead of just leaving it at 'I don't see anything between us' or something along those lines is pretty tasteless. Do you really think the pictures are necessary? I mean who does that?
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