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So I have been talking to this guy for about 2 months, (I really like him) and last night he even talked to me about having a talk with my dad to make our relationship official.. Well today while I was sitting in church, he texts me randomly asking if I know a girl he is apparently good friends with. I say I do know her, and he tells me that she asked him to her prom and he said yes. He didn't even ask my input in it really, it makes me kinda upset that he just automatically said yes to her. I played it off acting like I was okay with it, telling him that I trust him. But in reality, it makes me really upset. I am a freshman in highschool and he is a junior as well as the girl. He told me he "couldn't say no" to this girl because of how close they are. I have no idea if this girl has feelings for him or not, I don't even know her very well, but apparently they are just friends and have been for about 2 years. What should I do? Is it wrong of him to be going with this girl when he is dating me? Or am I overreacting? I am also going with this guy to our school's prom.
**note that this girl used to go to the same school as us and she got expelled for drinking at a party and lying about it. (we go to a private school.) there were also rumors that he and this girl had sex which he denied when I asked him about it, trying to assure me they are friends and nothing more.
Sure, I'd be suspicious. My question to you is whether or not you are exclusively dating each other. Your feelings are your feelings, though you don't have a case with him unless you're exclusive (you shoulda put a ring on it, so to speak if you didn't want him to see others and he agreed).
What school knows or cares what students do outside of school? What school expels someone for drinking at a party?? They'd have to expel a lot of students if they applied that rule evenly across the board. This makes no sense. It's not the 1950's.
You only have one choice. Don't worry about it because there's nothing you can do. If you're a good sport and keep your cool, then everything should get back to normal after the prom.
If you get upset, he might be less likely to be honest with you.
Sounds like he knows it hurt your feelings. Time to drop the subject.
You should have expressed your true feelings and not supportive lies.
Apparently you don't understand what happens on prom night. My understanding is somebody is going to get lucky if they spend all that money to dress up.
You have every right to express your feelings about this being a bad idea.
What school knows or cares what students do outside of school? What school expels someone for drinking at a party?? They'd have to expel a lot of students if they applied that rule evenly across the board. This makes no sense. It's not the 1950's.
She said it was a private school. They can do such a thing.
Public schools also often have rules in place regarding behavior outside of school for certain things and some groups of students. High school athletes have been suspended from their teams for drinking/drugs at many schools. Not the same as suspension, but it does happen.
Schools often are concerned with student activity outside of the building--think about Columbine. Certainly schools become concerned when students post things that are threatening on social media.
Young people really don't understand that posts/pictures/texts, etc. posted online are forever and easily seen by many.
Last edited by rrah; 04-17-2016 at 08:45 PM..
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...He didn't even ask my input in it really, it makes me kinda upset that he just automatically said yes to her. I played it off acting like I was okay with it, telling him that I trust him. But in reality, it makes me really upset. I am a freshman in highschool and he is a junior as well as the girl. He told me he "couldn't say no" to this girl because of how close they are. I have no idea if this girl has feelings for him or not, I don't even know her very well, but apparently they are just friends and have been for about 2 years.
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Tell him how you really feel about it but accept that he's made a commitment and will have to honor it. It appears he's doing the other girl a favor. With that said, in the future (with this guy and everyone else), be honest with your thoughts/feelings.
What school knows or cares what students do outside of school? What school expels someone for drinking at a party?? They'd have to expel a lot of students if they applied that rule evenly across the board. This makes no sense. It's not the 1950's.
This seems to be a catch phrase on this site. lol
Anyhow, your feelings are your feelings. How you handle them is what counts. If you don't trust this guy, and his friendship and closeness with another girl make you mistrust, then you may need to rethink dating him, especially if it's only been 2 months and exclusivity hasn't happened, or just recently occurred.
If you wanna continue to see him, then you may have to accept this girl, as he has apparently been close to her for a few years now. So he probably isn't going to just cut her off.
Yes, you should also go out with another guy to the same prom and let him know it's no biggie. You are doing the kid a favor.
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