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It's as if I meet a guy, we exchange numbers and have a good conversation, then everything flatlines. What I mean by this is that the chemistry is there, but quickly evaporates. Like the attraction going from WOW to meh. I don't ask for too much of a dude, but I won't settle for less either.
Sometimes attraction depends on number of drinks and hierarchy of needs
The next day is another story, and the initial "attraction" fades pretty quickly.
A woman should not feel any pressure to settle, but there is a big difference between that initial wave of euphoria that results from having an enjoyable time in the company of someone you just met, and the splash of cold water known as reality. The letdown you experienced is probably caused by your brain asking whether you see yourself wanting to spend time with the guy on a regular basis and have shared interests. When the answer is "I can take him in small doses" or "Come now, be serious ... the two of us together?" ... those are signs that you have rejoined your fellow earthlings.
When expectations and reality meet, then you are on to something. When it comes to early stages of relationships, the biggest asset is patience. Be patient enough to let things develop and smart enough to know when to look elsewhere.
the conversation and chemistry was going good...then went flat??
you didn't tell him you were a vegan?? that's was on my "no way" list years ago....right above drug dealer and devil worshipper
chemistry can be complicated- don't sell yourself short,,,guys can be dicks- my advice to women, is you are in the drivers seat... many guys are NOT good at reading any "like-able signs"
if you like a guy or think you could,,,let him know.
keep something in mind- many guys have to go through " culture & harassment" seminars at work,,,where men are pretty much predators and its the interpretation of the women of whether its harassment- and the facilitators also tell us ,,,don't joke with a woman, don't even look at them twice, don't comment of anything she is wearing...... now after years of hearing this,,, and conditioning ourselves,,, to filter what not to say in the work place- its tough to flick a switch,,,,when you are conditioned to be soooo cautious,,,,,yep it sounds dumb,,,, this is why you women should be more assertive.... men are pretty much neutered in the work-place
and that's most of our waking life..
I think it's easy getting caught up in the initial enthusiasm. I can go 'meh' once I start thinking rationally, like whether I honestly want to bring this guy into my life..
If it's almost immediate, then I'm not sure what's going on. A few weeks or months later, with that time having been used to get to know the person better, makes more sense to me.
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