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I recently became single, and I am trying out dating apps and websites and have been talking to this one guy, who gave me this response in regards to sex and us dating in general.
Guy: "Ok, so no sex thing isn't a big deal, I'm very particular about who I sleep with so that doesn't bother me at all But it does raise alarms it makes me think that you may be someone who uses sexual things against people. I'm ok with no sex but sexual activities are something I'm not sure I can go without and if your someone to use that for control I'm not dealing with that. Also you not working means I will generally front the bill for everything and I assume you don't drive. I believe in gender equality.. the days of the alpha male supporter is gone... I'm not worried about money but I don't want to feel like I'm being used. It seems like just trying between us is going to cost me financially but you have nothing to lose.. and you sound like your kinda shopping around and I do not do that. I only focus on one person and how can I be assured you're not juggling people? Don't mean to be overly blunt.. I'm just a very straight forward person.. no surprises. If we go out. I'm probably paying. Also gas etc."
I recently became single, and I am trying out dating apps and websites and have been talking to this one guy, who gave me this response in regards to sex and us dating in general.
Guy: "Ok, so no sex thing isn't a big deal, I'm very particular about who I sleep with so that doesn't bother me at all But it does raise alarms it makes me think that you may be someone who uses sexual things against people. I'm ok with no sex but sexual activities are something I'm not sure I can go without and if your someone to use that for control I'm not dealing with that. Also you not working means I will generally front the bill for everything and I assume you don't drive. I believe in gender equality.. the days of the alpha male supporter is gone... I'm not worried about money but I don't want to feel like I'm being used. It seems like just trying between us is going to cost me financially but you have nothing to lose.. and you sound like your kinda shopping around and I do not do that. I only focus on one person and how can I be assured you're not juggling people? Don't mean to be overly blunt.. I'm just a very straight forward person.. no surprises. If we go out. I'm probably paying. Also gas etc."
What do you think of his response?
It depends on what you wrote initially that warranted such a response. You've only given us half the story....
My first reaction is why did he bother responding. Second reaction, he was pretty honest.
^^^ This. And you don't seem to be a good catch. Get work and put your life in order. Otherwise it looks like you are a leech.
Every man will figure you out pretty fast.
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I recently became single, and I am trying out dating apps and websites and have been talking to this one guy, who gave me this response in regards to sex and us dating in general.
Guy: "Ok, so no sex thing isn't a big deal, I'm very particular about who I sleep with so that doesn't bother me at all But it does raise alarms it makes me think that you may be someone who uses sexual things against people. I'm ok with no sex but sexual activities are something I'm not sure I can go without and if your someone to use that for control I'm not dealing with that. Also you not working means I will generally front the bill for everything and I assume you don't drive. I believe in gender equality.. the days of the alpha male supporter is gone... I'm not worried about money but I don't want to feel like I'm being used. It seems like just trying between us is going to cost me financially but you have nothing to lose.. and you sound like your kinda shopping around and I do not do that. I only focus on one person and how can I be assured you're not juggling people? Don't mean to be overly blunt.. I'm just a very straight forward person.. no surprises. If we go out. I'm probably paying. Also gas etc."
What do you think of his response?
Red flags:
A) Generally poor sentence structure.
B) Use of the phrase "Alpha male"
C) Expects you to not date other men, before you're in an exclusive relationship
D) Makes a big deal about paying -- not just for the meal, but for gas, which is incredibly trivial
E) Generally critical attitude (e.g. chip on the shoulder)
Having said that, I think others bring up good points -- We don't know what triggered this response. What did you say to him that caused this? Did you deliver some kind of ultimatum about when and how the sex might go down?
I recently became single, and I am trying out dating apps and websites and have been talking to this one guy, who gave me this response in regards to sex and us dating in general.
Guy: "Ok, so no sex thing isn't a big deal, I'm very particular about who I sleep with so that doesn't bother me at all But it does raise alarms it makes me think that you may be someone who uses sexual things against people. I'm ok with no sex but sexual activities are something I'm not sure I can go without and if your someone to use that for control I'm not dealing with that. Also you not working means I will generally front the bill for everything and I assume you don't drive. I believe in gender equality.. the days of the alpha male supporter is gone... I'm not worried about money but I don't want to feel like I'm being used. It seems like just trying between us is going to cost me financially but you have nothing to lose.. and you sound like your kinda shopping around and I do not do that. I only focus on one person and how can I be assured you're not juggling people? Don't mean to be overly blunt.. I'm just a very straight forward person.. no surprises. If we go out. I'm probably paying. Also gas etc."
What do you think of his response?
That's what every normal guy would say/think about you and your "situation"
Having said that, I think others bring up good points -- We don't know what triggered this response. What did you say to him that caused this? Did you deliver some kind of ultimatum about when and how the sex might go down?
The only red flag here is the OP who has nothing to offer.
Doesn't work or wants to work.
Lives with parents.
No car. Doesn't drive.
No sex before marriage.
Wants bf to pay for everything.
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