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For one, I'm not "mooning over underage girls from my past." This girl isn't that much younger (only around two years), and it's just sick to hear accusations along those lines. I'm also going out and meeting girls my age, but I'm not with anyone ATM.
Since everyone believes this is a bad idea, I won't do it. Like I said, I'm speaking to people I know right now in person, so it's not like I've been hung over this one girl in particular. If everyone believes I shouldn't do it and that social media isn't a good place to meet others (relationship-wise), I'll definitely take the advice.
I would stick with what you're doing now, engaging with women in person. You've asked about connecting via social media before and I am wondering whether you're not very comfortable with face-to-face interaction in this regard. If that's the case, being with women in realtime is probably the right solution, IMO. You'll get more comfortable with the whole process.
I do. But I was also a teenager. I dated older guys. My high school boyfriend was four years older. Even now I date a guy that was in middle school when I graduated from high school. Age is only a number.
After a certain maturity point age is just a number, but a couple/few years when one is under, say, 18-22 is seriously huge.
I mean it should be obvious, right? Growth starts off very fast (including emotional growth) and slows down on a trajectory over time. So for example, the difference between a 6-month-old and an 18-month-old is so gigantic as to almost be ridiculous. The difference between a 4-year-old and a 5-year-old may be that the 5-year-old now has had daily experience in a school setting, may have learned in the past year how to read, ride a bicycle and other big leaps, making the 4-year-old seem like "a baby" by comparison.
The difference between a freshman and a senior is also tremendous. I know people do this, and I knew kids who DID do this, but seriously...it's a whole different ballgame. Physical maturation, emotional maturation, intellectual knowledge, where one is in one's life (just entering the "big leagues" school v., say, driving and prepping for SATs) is a really giant one. It just is. And the step between still being in high school, and being in or having graduated college is one serious life stage and again, you're talking about two completely different worlds.
Now...if you're talking a 28-year-old with a 32-year-old, obviously that's a different story. 40 with 36, 80 with 76, I mean you get the picture, LOL, over time there isn't functionally, emotionally, intellectually or otherwise a "difference" at all.
This is really just common sense and anyone can observe it.
I've had my mind on an old high school crush for the past few months, but I don't know this girl personally. She was in my gym period, and I only know her name from a yearbook. We've never spoken, and I graduated high school a few years back and she just graduated so I'm a few years older. She's like a crush from afar, basically. I understand, at this point, I can't really make a move through social media (Facebook, Instagram) without making the situation awkward. Also, I can't really make any move that doesn't revolve around social media at the same time. So, knowing this info, where should I go from here? Say I sent a message, how should I word it? I could say something like "Hi we went to the same high school and had the same gym period, and I thought you were cute but never got a chance to say hi" but this might creep her out. At the same time, I'm sure some would find this flattering, and at the same time I wouldn't know what else to say considering we've never spoken. I don't have much to work with, but also nothing to lose. I don't know where she's going to college, but I have the whole summer in front of me.
Also, I know I've posted similar threads in the past, but this one is the biggest long shot. However, I've been speaking to a few other girls (keeping my options open), so I won't be too upset if nothing happens with this girl. So, any advice? Thanks!
Send her a PM on facebook, since you're obviously not facebook friends yet - word it like this.
Hello 'Pat'...
We went to school together and were in the same gym class. Saw your picture wanted to say hello.
Hope you're doing well.
Send her a PM on facebook, since you're obviously not facebook friends yet - word it like this.
Hello 'Pat'...
We went to school together and were in the same gym class. Saw your picture wanted to say hello.
Hope you're doing well.
Plain, to the point, and see what happens.
Right. What' s the big deal about doing this? She's either going to reply with friendly answer or she'll ignore it.
Certainly less intrusive than going up to complete strangers in a bar or grocery store.
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You've asked about connecting via social media before and I am wondering whether you're not very comfortable with face-to-face interaction in this regard. If that's the case, being with women in realtime is probably the right solution, IMO. You'll get more comfortable with the whole process.
