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Old 06-18-2016, 05:04 PM
 
Location: South Bay Native
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If you want 'nsa': craigslist. They have a whole category for it.
She already has three guys in her stable. She's not looking for more partners, she wants to make sure she's not judged for loosening her sexual morals.

 
Old 06-18-2016, 05:04 PM
 
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I guess you all are confused about my post.... I do not want to have sex with unknown men, but men I know and have dated. I just do not want to be labeled
 
Old 06-18-2016, 05:19 PM
 
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She already has three guys in her stable. She's not looking for more partners, she wants to make sure she's not judged for loosening her sexual morals.
exactly
 
Old 06-18-2016, 05:53 PM
 
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The title of the thread doesn't make sense.
Who will be judging? The three men once they figure out they're all being strung along?

Only you will have to live and deal with your own moral compass.
 
Old 06-18-2016, 05:54 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I guess you all are confused about my post.... I do not want to have sex with unknown men, but men I know and have dated. I just do not want to be labeled
Then keep your private life private. Don't blab about your personal affairs.

WHO are you worried is going to judge you?

Also, re: being labeled a "race traitor," in order to REALLY be sexually liberated, at some point you will have to learn how to do this without caring what other people think about ANYTHING.

True intimacy = making yourself vulnerable but it also means you have to TRUST yourself and your partner. What guy is going to appreciate being a secret because you're afraid to stand up to your family?
 
Old 06-18-2016, 06:20 PM
 
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Then keep your private life private. Don't blab about your personal affairs.

WHO are you worried is going to judge you?

Also, re: being labeled a "race traitor," in order to REALLY be sexually liberated, at some point you will have to learn how to do this without caring what other people think about ANYTHING.

True intimacy = making yourself vulnerable but it also means you have to TRUST yourself and your partner. What guy is going to appreciate being a secret because you're afraid to stand up to your family?

You're right. I tell them that I am afraid to date another white guy openly because of what my family may say and they kind of get angry with me once I share with them just that. I just want to be free, which is why I am getting my own place. I feel I am mature enough to have sex with who ever I want
 
Old 06-18-2016, 06:30 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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You're right. I tell them that I am afraid to date another white guy openly because of what my family may say and they kind of get angry with me once I share with them just that. I just want to be free, which is why I am getting my own place. I feel I am mature enough to have sex with who ever I want
If you're living on your own and paying your own way, how you live your life is up to you, assuming you're a law abiding citizen. what's with the white guy thing?? Just curious, I'm always curious about what motivates people in their love lives.
 
Old 06-18-2016, 06:38 PM
 
Location: Los Angeles>Little Rock>Houston>Little Rock
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If you want to have sex, have sex
If you want to be free, be free
There's a million ways to be
You know that there are

~Cat Stevens (except for the sex part)
 
Old 06-18-2016, 06:43 PM
 
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If you're living on your own and paying your own way, how you live your life is up to you, assuming you're a law abiding citizen. what's with the white guy thing?? Just curious, I'm always curious about what motivates people in their love lives.

I am not sure why I am overly attracted to white guys. I've been having this attraction since I was little girl and have been trying to hide it as I got older because my fear of being judged by the black community and my family. Years past, and at 23 I went to a nightclub with my friend and a ton of white men were trying to get with me and that is where I realized that maybe I just need to date men that are equally attracted to me. White men are the only men that give me the time of the day and also I click more better with them. I am not sure why because I am heavily engaged in the black community and I have always went to schools that were heavily populated by black people.
My entire socialization was in the black middle class rural community here in the south
 
Old 06-18-2016, 06:50 PM
 
Location: Brooklyn
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I am not sure why I am overly attracted to white guys. I've been having this attraction since I was little girl and have been trying to hide it as I got older because my fear of being judged by the black community and my family. Years past, and at 23 I went to a nightclub with my friend and a ton of white men were trying to get with me and that is where I realized that maybe I just need to date men that are equally attracted to me. White men are the only men that give me the time of the day and also I click more better with them. I am not sure why because I am heavily engaged in the black community and I have always went to schools that were heavily populated by black people.
My entire socialization was in the black middle class rural community here in the south
Do you and stop worrying about ppl.
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