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Boyfriend randomly points out "flaws" but then acts concerned if I get annoyed? today randomly just asked me why my face was red. I looked and just my cheeks were red because I have a natural flush. I got annoyed and he said "oh I was just concerned maybe you were itchy". Wouldn't it make more sense to just ask why I'm itchy then? Does this sound like bull**** to you? (He has acne prone skin so I feel like maybe he's secretly jealous of my clear skin so he tries to find "flaws" in it to make himself feel better).
Also, this is not the first time he's done it (can't think of any other examples off the top of my head but I just know he's done it before pointing out random things on my face or hair etc)
Are you secure with your looks?
Telling you that your face is red is nothing unless he knows that you are insecure with your looks.
That isn.t love or even concern: it.s fault-finding.
Did ur dad do it to you when you were young?
Find a different guy to date, one who is truly concerned when warranted. Re-think that pock-face fool.
Hmm. No my dad never did it. I've never dated anyone like this either really. The other time he insulted me, I talked to him about it so I thought he understood it was offensive and not to comment on my appearance again. Guess not.
Telling you that your face is red is nothing unless he knows that you are insecure with your looks.
It's not about being secure or not, its just rude to point out. It's like me asking him "why do you have a pimple?" It's rude therefore I wouldnt do it. It's called human decency not to pick out random things about people's appearances. If anything you could argue that him nitpicking someone else's looks shows HIS insecurity.
May it be possible that perhaps you may be overthinking this? The reason I ask is because if it were me (and I did see your face to be mildly red opposed to other days) I would be concerned and asked if you're feeling okay. Of course, I wouldn't ask to make you insecure but out of concern. I think that perhaps you may be overlooking and over thinking this situation and think he has some personal vendetta out against you. Folks in this thread as well. We must gather the facts first before saying "yeah, he's doing that due to his own personal issues".
May it be possible that perhaps you may be overthinking this? The reason I ask is because if it were me (and I did see your face to be mildly red opposed to other days) I would be concerned and asked if you're feeling okay. Of course, I wouldn't ask to make you insecure but out of concern. I think that perhaps you may be overlooking and over thinking this situation and think he has some personal vendetta out against you. Folks in this thread as well. We must gather the facts first before saying "yeah, he's doing that due to his own personal issues".
Before this situation he has insulted my facial features bluntly. Definitely not out of concern there. I talked to him about it and he claimed he didn't mean anything by joking about my features. I'm calling bull sh*t on that tbh. And with this situation- If he was concerned I'm wondering why he didn't communicate it better. He could've said are you ok but he automatically mentions my appearance which I find weird and some other people seem to think so if you read every post. I'm thinking this is the last straw for me as it's not the first time he did this. He's done it a few times - my nose, chin, etc. claimed he was "joking"
There's reasons your face could be red. You could be running a fever? You could be embarrassed? Makeup? He's just asking a question, lady. Lighten up. If you're going to jump down a guys face for asking a simple question, then it tells us a lot more about you than it does him.
There's reasons your face could be red. You could be running a fever? You could be embarrassed? Makeup? He's just asking a question, lady. Lighten up. If you're going to jump down a guys face for asking a simple question, then it tells us a lot more about you than it does him.
Before this situation he has insulted my facial features bluntly. Definitely not out of concern there. I talked to him about it and he claimed he didn't mean anything by joking about my features. I'm calling bull sh*t on that tbh. And with this situation- If he was concerned I'm wondering why he didn't communicate it better. He could've said are you ok but he automatically mentions my appearance which I find weird and some other people seem to think so if you read every post. I'm thinking this is the last straw for me as it's not the first time he did this. He's done it a few times - my nose, chin, etc. claimed he was "joking"
It was definitely framed as nit picking. I still don't even know if he was truly concerned or just being passive aggressive. And not first time he's done it. I've made it clear it annoyed me even before this. So I'm thinking maybe it's just something he can't help. Maybe he's just an overly critical person. This is really hard for me because I don't want to be with someone like this...but thinking of ending it makes me sad.. He is a decent person other than this issue :/
Usually there's more to being together as a couple than thinking your partner is a decent person. You don't say you're in love with him, you only say he's a decent person.
You've told him you don't like his comments and jokes about your appearance. He hasn't changed his behavior. One would conclude from that that he doesn't care about your feelings. Doesn't sound very decent. Instead of feeling sad over the thought of breaking up with him, look forward to meeting someone who thinks you're the greatest thing since sliced bread, and doesn't have issues with your appearance.
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