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I've had sex with between 65 and 75 guys. I've never been interested in settling down until now. I think honesty is one of the most important things in a relationship which is why I have never nor will I ever lie about my past. I don't want to spend years of my life with someone and always wondering whether or not they would accept me if they knew.
However every single guy that I meet now is instantly turned off when I tell them. It's been suggested to me that I should go back to some of the guys that I had sex with and see what happens. I suppose it might be a good idea seeing as they obviously had no problem with me being promiscuous, but then again maybe the reason for that is that it was just sex.
So what should I do? Should I keep trying to meet new people, or should I call some of my old FWBs / FBs and see if I can get something started with them?
To let new guys know you're not a virgin is one thing but why do you think you have to give them numbers?
A clean medical report might be more important.
Don't give numbers. If your number is higher than the man's, well, MANY men are insecure about this. I made the mistake of telling an insecure man my number and he berated me and called me names. And my number was not much higher than his. Just don't do it. If they ask just say the past isn't relevant and move on.
I've had sex with between 65 and 75 guys. I've never been interested in settling down until now. I think honesty is one of the most important things in a relationship which is why I have never nor will I ever lie about my past. I don't want to spend years of my life with someone and always wondering whether or not they would accept me if they knew.
However every single guy that I meet now is instantly turned off when I tell them. It's been suggested to me that I should go back to some of the guys that I had sex with and see what happens. I suppose it might be a good idea seeing as they obviously had no problem with me being promiscuous, but then again maybe the reason for that is that it was just sex.
So what should I do? Should I keep trying to meet new people, or should I call some of my old FWBs / FBs and see if I can get something started with them?
I completely get this as I'm the same pretty much.... And most of my experience is in the same capacity
I know it's awful to be judged....I'm honest and up front myself as even though I am a few will jump to their own conclusions and label me a player, womaniser, can't keep a steady relationship, has commitment issues etc etc which is wrong and genuinely enjoy my freeedom.
My best advice would be ( assuming you are worried about telling them your number of partners ) make a joke of it when asked such as " enough to know what I'm doing " or " well the more we have sex the more chance you've got of guessing " sort of thing ( believe me it WORKS )
End of the day my love if they are too concerned about your past and they don't take you by face value then quite simply they are not worth YOUR time
Old FB or FWB would be fun again and they may struggle to take you seriously, but as you are clearly able to meet people .... New people = a new life
Don't give numbers. If your number is higher than the man's, well, MANY men are insecure about this. I made the mistake of telling an insecure man my number and he berated me and called me names. And my number was not much higher than his. Just don't do it. If they ask just say the past isn't relevant and move on.
The last thing I want is to be with someone who is going to have a problem, which is why it's best to mention it at some point, so they know, and so I know where I stand. I'd hate to think that I could waste 10, 15 or 20 years with someone who is incompatible with me.
How does this come up every single time anyway? I've never been asked my number, and neither have many of the female posters here. Lots of male posters here don't ask or want to know. Do the guys you date ask you, or do you blurt it out at some inopportune time? Do you tell them before or after sex?
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