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I would say anyone "better looking" has an advantage over those who are not, but that advantage will quickly diminish if other traits overpower its appeal.
It's a sliding scale with some five and some take involved, not a ridged structured one.
This is why It's best to be a little bit well rounded in multiple areas rather than relying only on one or two specifics.
Rounded people will always have a better "overall" advantage over those who are not due to being versed in more things, but all advantages have their own payouts.
I'm not really a shy or socially inept guy (I regularly get on with randos when I'm out), but I'm not very outgoing without having a genuine reason to engage someone, and I fly solo a lot, so I'm guessing I come across as "shy" a lot of the time... and that, combined with being burn victim ugly, I still get occasionally chatted up by women.
Depending on where I am, they're usually burnt out cougars, or cute early-twenties lushes (i.e. not wifey material in either case) but I figure if a piece of garbage like me can get hit up on occasion, average guys must get 10x that, and good looking guys 100x that... or something like that.
I must be hideous then because I've never been approached by a women and im 36 lol
I must be hideous then because I've never been approached by a women and im 36 lol
Do you look all around you when you go out (make eye contact)? Are you going out to places where it's easy to start a conversation (clubs, bars or wherever)? Do you look like you're having fun - not over-the-top but just approachable, fun, interesting?
Do you look all around you when you go out (make eye contact)? Are you going out to places where it's easy to start a conversation (clubs, bars or wherever)? Do you look like you're having fun - not over-the-top but just approachable, fun, interesting?
My father had both and what kind of father was he?
Non-Existent.
Seen lots of other confident guys who are just about the same way in attitude once you really get to know them. Shy people on the other hand you have to get know a bit more in my experience, and most of the time they're good people.
I'm sorry but I've seen way too many women get burned by the whole allure of confidence to say that shyness is a bad thing. For example I know a guy who was very shy in his early 30's until he met a wonderful woman who got to know him and now they live a very happy life in San Fran with a child.
If she's worth your time she'll look past one thing about you.
You are projecting based on your dad who was not a good guy to you. Confidence/charisma and being a good guy are not mutually exclusive despite what your dad showed you.
I must be hideous then because I've never been approached by a women and im 36 lol
Well, I figure I must be fugly when I look at my male friends/co-workers and they've got a laundry list of cute women matched on Tinder, and I've never had a single match (other than bots) in 3+ years of swiping.
Getting approached two or three times a year from a drunk ASU sophomore or some weathered soccer mom doesn't exactly put me at the same level as getting dates and hookups on the regular. I haven't had a date in over three years. Pretty sure I'm a dumpster fire to most women.
Well, I figure I must be fugly when I look at my male friends/co-workers and they've got a laundry list of cute women matched on Tinder, and I've never had a single match (other than bots) in 3+ years of swiping.
Getting approached two or three times a year from a drunk ASU sophomore or some weathered soccer mom doesn't exactly put me at the same level as getting dates and hookups on the regular. I haven't had a date in over three years. Pretty sure I'm a dumpster fire to most women.
My acupuncturist looks a lot like you, except he wears his hair long in a ponytail. Same Scandinavian type, though. He was considered to be quite the eligible bachelor in town before he got married in his mid-20's. Quite the heart-throb. You're not a dumpster fire. It would help if you smiled, though.
I think he thinks that just by having good looks and physical attractiveness will compensate his being shy in getting a girlfriend or pulling a bird
And certainly sounds like by getting back his former glory ( in being fit ) he will be more confident ... Which in fairness I think we can all relate to
It's the sameO thing just a different day another thread.
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