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Originally Posted by Liberty2011
I think the way he handled it was terrific!  Doesn't mean that will work for everyone, but there's no harm in asking, as long as you can handle when the answer is no. |
Yep. The key is to not be a creep, not act desperate, and be objective enough to know if there's no there there. It's entirely possible to ask someone out in that situation and not be one. Let's use JJ's positive experience as a primer:
1) A novel concept. Try talking to her as a flesh-and-blood person, not automatically as a potential bedmate. And see if she really talks back.
2) Actual curiosity about you. If she asks questions about you more in-depth than "Do you want fries with that?" or "Did you find everything you were looking for?" like hobbies, interests, school and whatever else, then she wants to know you better.
3) However, a caution here: Simply wanting to know you a little better isn't quite the same thing as her ripping open her Arby's uniform open and screaming "How's THAT for a 2-for-1 special?!?"
4) So, in truth, it's best to make several short visits to gauge interest, all cleverly disguised as legitimate business visits. By that, I don't mean every 15 minutes. Or every day for that matter. If she keeps the conversation going, keep coming back.
5) One other thing. No puddle of drool on the counter. Or at least wipe up after yourself.
6) When the moment is right, just mention the weekend as an abstract idea. Then talk about hiking or concerts or whatever else you like doing. See if she takes the bait.
7) Regarding #6: "When the moment is right" is not in the middle of lunch rush or when the bad-tempered manager with the porn mustache is watching. First, she should be working. Second, he likely wants to bang her, too. Then you're just a source of stress to her.
8) If she does take the bait, then again mention maybe doing something together, unless she has a boyfriend. Always assume she has a boyfriend and tell her as much, because a woman of such lyrical beauty and soulfulness must have the guys lined up like bowling pins to be knocked down, one after another. Then tell her that you're just taking a shot, because that's the kind of guy you are. NOTE: This is advanced technique. Doing this badly will get you laughed out of the Red Lobster forthwith.
9) If you get shot down, do not slink out. That means you are weak. Instead, change the subject to something else. The fact that you just took a bullet to the head and shook it off will drive her crazy with desire. "Wait? I'm not all that?" is what she'll think as she fingers the buttons on her Arby's uniform.
10) If you don't get shut down, then congrats. Keep it light, chill, and fun on the first date.
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