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So i have always loved the movie castaway. For those that have not seen it, its about a man who is in a plane crash and gets stuck on an island for several years. He eventually returns home at the end of the movie, only to find out that the love of his life has gotten married again & had a kid and moved on with her life bc she thought he was dead. Its a good movie and it has tom hanks in it. Its a good love story but that's not the only part of the movie, but I just bring it up bc for some reason I have always been really interested in what others would do in that situation.
Say your husband or wife got in a plane crash and their body was never found and you thought they were dead so you just moved on with your life and got remarried. Then say it turns out they weren't dead after all and they are found alive. When they return would you get back together with them and leave your current love? Or would you stay with your new partner?
I have no clue what I would do but I'm super interested in the opinions of others. There's no right or wrong answer in my opinion
I think there is no way to know...she still loved her new husband, and they had children together and a good life...that makes a difference. She still loved Tom, but not enough to turn her kids' world upside down, nor the husband who had helped her through a dark time in her life. If there were kids involved as well as marriage to a good man and good father, I would probably have done what she did. If there weren't kids, I think she might have left with him in the movie.
I loved that movie! If I remember correctly, the women who played his fiance' fainted when she discovered he was alive, and it was emotionally destroying her, that is why her now husband had to come in to talk to Tom Hanks (though also if I remember correctly, he was kind of a territorial dick... maybe he was scared that Tom Hanks would still his wife).
Plus at the end, she WAS willing to run away with Tom Hanks, but he choose not to let her do it because he knew it was morally wrong, she was a married woman, he was not an adultery. Also wasn't it like over 10 years since he was on that island, she that would be wrong to leave a good man who gave you years of love just because an old love came back into your life.
WOW! Forgot how much I loved that movie!
I would do exactly as Tom Hanks did. If I was the woman, I would do exactly as Tom Hanks did.
Let me ask you this Upsadaisy, if we were married for about 5-10 years (I don't think it said in the movie how long she had been married), and out of nowhere a woman who I though had past came back saying they loved me, would you be okay with me leaving you? Would you understand? If it were me, I would acknowledge her feelings (though it would hurt knowing that my wife not only loved another man, but was in love with another man), but I would feel horrible knowing that she had to consider if she should choose me or him. That would crush my confidence in our love, if she had to debate it.
That movie was romantic, but at the end of the day, it "somewhat" justified adultery. Or at the very least it promoted choosing fantasy (what if) over reality. Remember she never married Tom Hanks, they just dated, she dated and married the new guy.
Ps. I hope that my post did not come off as antagonistic or condescending, I am happy to finally meet a fellow lover of this great movie (^_^)
If there were kids involved as well as marriage to a good man and good father, I would probably have done what she did. If there weren't kids, I think she might have left with him in the movie.
Hello Ocnjgirl,
I had forgot about the children. If there were no kids, but just a good husband, would you have still stayed or ran away with your greatest love? (When people die, we only remember the good, so I am sure in her mind, the relationship she had with Tom Hanks was much better than her current one)
So i have always loved the movie castaway. For those that have not seen it, its about a man who is in a plane crash and gets stuck on an island for several years. He eventually returns home at the end of the movie, only to find out that the love of his life has gotten married again & had a kid and moved on with her life bc she thought he was dead. Its a good movie and it has tom hanks in it. Its a good love story but that's not the only part of the movie, but I just bring it up bc for some reason I have always been really interested in what others would do in that situation.
Say your husband or wife got in a plane crash and their body was never found and you thought they were dead so you just moved on with your life and got remarried. Then say it turns out they weren't dead after all and they are found alive. When they return would you get back together with them and leave your current love? Or would you stay with your new partner?
I have no clue what I would do but I'm super interested in the opinions of others. There's no right or wrong answer in my opinion
Hello
To be honest it's a very hard one...
If memory serves he was on the island and missing for 3/4 years? .... If I were presumed dead for that long and my girlfriend/wife moved on I'd accept it and be happy for her as I'd know there was no possible way for her to know I was still alive and she would have already come to terms with my " death ".
If I was the new boyfriend in the situation and she had just found out her " ex " husband was still alive I'd honestly be completely understanding of her choice whichever she made .... As id realise the shock, emotion and the impossible dilemma she would have.... If she wanted to resume or go back to the husband of course it would be hard for me but I'd make it easy for her to do so.
If I was the one in the middle..... Much like yourself I've got absolutely NO idea my love ..... It's very hard.
Tom Hanks had an affair with Wilson. So what's good for the goose is good for the gander.
That was more " bromance " not romance LMAO...
But I suppose after 4 years ... AHEM! lol
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..... It's very hard.
