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Please correct me if I am wrong, but it certainly seems younger women with older men are more accepted than younger men with older women. I am 30 with a woman that is 43. I love her and we are engaged, I am not naive, we have been together for an long time and have done many things together. I am perfectly fine with no children an just want to be with my woman, but many other (including women my age) have made some mean and insensitive remarks about our relationship.;
Now please keep in mind it has doesn't effect the way I feel about her. Just being with her and spending time with her is something I love and cherish, but it has seemed to me if I were a younger woman and she were an older man it wouldn't ge as much scrutiny. Thoughts?
Oh, sorry, I feel I should elaborate. I do FULLY understand there are nice, intelligent, younger women. But if part of why a YW gets with an OM is due to perceived maturity why is it considered so wrong for a YM to do the same?
Now please keep in mind it has doesn't effect the way I feel about her. Just being with her and spending time with her is something I love and cherish, but it has seemed to me if I were a younger woman and she were an older man it wouldn't ge as much scrutiny. Thoughts?
If my experience is any indication, some people are going to be jerks no matter the respective genders of the parties involved in these sorts of relationships.
IOW, I've been on the receiving end of some very ugly comments regarding my relationships with older men.
It's more accepted because historically husbands were usually older (ranging from just a little bit older to quite a bit). Young women needed to get off Dad's dime and start making babies ASAP. Nowadays not nearly so much, so there are new pairings you didn't often see in the past. Some people just react oddly to things they're not used to.
I don't know that its' all that much more accepted. I think that age gaps (say more than 5 years) are still a bit more likely to involve an older man/younger woman, but popular culture seems to approve just fine of the reverse. In my experience older men are often seen as predatory, opportunistic, economically exploitative, or just delusional when they pursue younger women. Older women get fetishized a good deal, but they also get a lot of "you go girl" kind of support.
I think these threads get started by younger men who feel rejected in a specific case by an older women, or who fear they're missing out in general.
Oh, sorry, I feel I should elaborate. I do FULLY understand there are nice, intelligent, younger women. But if part of why a YW gets with an OM is due to perceived maturity why is it considered so wrong for a YM to do the same?
Society is stuck in the dinosaurs age when it comes to certain issues. Fortunately for you and her the two of you have evolved past the dinosaurs age and are progressing. Best wishes to you two.
To be frank I couldn't give a flying bleep on either gender older/younger relationship ... As its quite simply none of my business what others do, plus if they are happy then more power to them
OP......If people feel the need to judge or been snarky then that's THEIR problem and most certainly not YOURS
Personally I'd tell them to sod off mate
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