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I have been dating this girl for about oh 8 months. Gret girl things are well
One day before she had said I don't really show affection towards her and sometimes she thinks I reall am not interested. Which is true. I have been guilty of it
So I have been putting more effort to show affection
Last NIght I texted her asking if there's anything I need to improve and she said "Well you have low self -esteem:
I said "why you saying that" and she said "well you are asking what you need to improve
I told her I only asked because of the past with me not showing affection and I was just making sure I have ben doing that
She said at times I still come off cold but it has gotten better
I wrote her off for the tenth time today
And practiced all the things I would say
But she came over, I lost my nerve
I took her back and made her dessert
Now I know I'm being used
That's okay, man, 'cause I like the abuse
I know she's playing with me
That's okay 'cause I got no self esteem
We make plans to go out at night
I wait 'til 2 then I turn out the light
This rejection's got me so low
If she keeps it up I just might tell her so
When she's saying that she wants only me
Then I wonder why she sleeps with my friends
When she's saying that I'm like a disease
Then I wonder how much more I can spend
Well, I guess I should stick up for myself
But I really think it's better this way
The more you suffer
The more it shows you really care
Right? Yeah, yeah, yeah
Now I'll relate this little bit
That happens more than I'd like to admit
Late at night she knocks on my door
She's drunk again and looking to score
Now I know I should say "No"
But that's kind of hard when she's ready to go
I may be dumb but I'm not a dweeb
I'm just a sucker with no self esteem
When she's saying that she wants only me
Then I wonder why she sleeps with my friends
When she's saying that I'm like a disease
Then I wonder how much more I can spend
Well, I guess I should stick up for myself
But I really think it's better this way
The more you suffer
The more it shows you really care
Right? Yeah, yeah, yeah
Don't ask questions if you don't want honest answers.. Plain & simple. You asked for personal critique and you got it.
~ You do have low self-esteem if the first thing you do is sign up here in hopes of getting validation from complete strangers. ( AGAIN. . . You asked for it! )
Guys rarely ask what they can do to "get" or "be" better - usually they don't because they don't care. But they don't need to because if they listen to their gf they'll hear plenty! So to hear a guy ask can sound strange - just pay attention? I guess that is harder work than to have it spoonfed to you but you'll get waaaayy more points than by asking.
Guys rarely ask what they can do to "get" or "be" better - usually they don't because they don't care. But they don't need to because if they listen to their gf they'll hear plenty! So to hear a guy ask can sound strange - just pay attention? I guess that is harder work than to have it spoonfed to you but you'll get waaaayy more points than by asking.
That's an interesting perspective. Men typically don't care and women typically let them know all the ways they're deficient. Chicken? Egg?
She may be projecting her own lack of self-esteem on you. Not being attentive to a girlfriend/wife (on your part) is not usually a sign of low self-esteem. Needing a lot of attention is. However, it's not all clear to me how much attention she asks for and how much you fail to give. A large gap between the two spells trouble in any relationship.
I have been dating this girl for about oh 8 months. Gret girl things are well
One day before she had said I don't really show affection towards her and sometimes she thinks I reall am not interested. Which is true. I have been guilty of it
So I have been putting more effort to show affection
Last NIght I texted her asking if there's anything I need to improve and she said "Well you have low self -esteem:
I said "why you saying that" and she said "well you are asking what you need to improve
I told her I only asked because of the past with me not showing affection and I was just making sure I have ben doing that
She said at times I still come off cold but it has gotten better
Was it wrong for me to ask that?
Your problem was texting. If she is your girlfriend, you talk to her face to face, perhaps the fact that you communicate and ask personal questions via text is part of the overall problem.
Also if you are texting in the same format you wrote this post in, hate to tell you, but you come off sounding uneducated. Seems like you need to work on your communication skills from top to bottom.
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