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Old 10-31-2016, 04:35 PM
 
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She is attracted to controlling jerks, as is evidenced by her last boyfriend. If you want her, you need to be more of a jerk.

Otherwise, enjoy the friendzone.
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Old 10-31-2016, 09:10 PM
 
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Ahhhhh I hope not.. Keep giving input!! It's helping
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Old 10-31-2016, 10:19 PM
 
Location: State of Transition
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Ahhhhh I hope not.. Keep giving input!! It's helping
NO, don't be a jerk! If she were drawn to jerks, she wouldn't have broken up with him.
Wait it out, stay in touch, see what happens. Is she texting with you?
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Old 11-01-2016, 09:54 AM
 
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NO, don't be a jerk! If she were drawn to jerks, she wouldn't have broken up with him.
Wait it out, stay in touch, see what happens. Is she texting with you?
Hmmm... not sure I agree with that.

What were her other past boyfriends like?
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Old 11-01-2016, 09:57 AM
 
Location: Raleigh, North Carolina
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NO, don't be a jerk! If she were drawn to jerks, she wouldn't have broken up with him.
Wait it out, stay in touch, see what happens. Is she texting with you?
It's good she broke up with him, but why did it take so long? She sounds somewhat submissive, which doesn't seem to match with the OP.
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Old 11-01-2016, 10:11 AM
 
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It's good she broke up with him, but why did it take so long? She sounds somewhat submissive, which doesn't seem to match with the OP.
Yes. If she didn't like jerks, he never would have been her boyfriend in the first place.
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Old 11-01-2016, 04:20 PM
 
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Yes. If she didn't like jerks, he never would have been her boyfriend in the first place.

I think it wasn't for a little he changed his ways around her..
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Old 11-01-2016, 04:27 PM
 
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Here is my current position with her. Well we still currently talk everyday but has made it clear that in general still doesn't want a boyfriend. I still like her but a lot of people are telling me stop talking to her it's not worth it she isn't going to like you back.. I still am not sure whether to believe that she won't like me eventually or she already might, but a matter of dating or not. She even told me not to wait for her and to talk to other girl! I told this to a girl I'm friends with and she explained that what she may have meant by that is almost like a test.. If I still am around after a little while then I proved myself almost. So I need it straight forward, who thinks I move on or should I continue to do what I do currently.
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Old 11-01-2016, 05:59 PM
 
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Here is my current position with her. Well we still currently talk everyday but has made it clear that in general still doesn't want a boyfriend. I still like her but a lot of people are telling me stop talking to her it's not worth it she isn't going to like you back.. I still am not sure whether to believe that she won't like me eventually or she already might, but a matter of dating or not. She even told me not to wait for her and to talk to other girl! I told this to a girl I'm friends with and she explained that what she may have meant by that is almost like a test.. If I still am around after a little while then I proved myself almost. So I need it straight forward, who thinks I move on or should I continue to do what I do currently.
If you want your life with women not to be one of disappointment and confusion, don't try to get with women who "test" you.

Also, women who tell you to "not to wait" and to see other girls are not into you.

It's pretty clear you should move on.
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Old 11-01-2016, 06:04 PM
 
Location: In a place beyond human comprehension
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Here is my current position with her. Well we still currently talk everyday but has made it clear that in general still doesn't want a boyfriend. I still like her but a lot of people are telling me stop talking to her it's not worth it she isn't going to like you back.. I still am not sure whether to believe that she won't like me eventually or she already might, but a matter of dating or not. She even told me not to wait for her and to talk to other girl! I told this to a girl I'm friends with and she explained that what she may have meant by that is almost like a test.. If I still am around after a little while then I proved myself almost. So I need it straight forward, who thinks I move on or should I continue to do what I do currently.
If someone said that to me, I would take their word for it and move on. Too many head games are being played here.There are plenty of other people who WANT a relationship and will be very clear if they want to be with you or not.

This girl just got out of a relationship, she probably needs to do a lot of self reflection and discovering. I would not put my life on hold for anyone and neither should you. I understand you have feelings for her and that might be why you don't see the reality of this situation, but it's probably in your best interest if you move on.

Shouldn't wait for anyone. Period.
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