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I wouldn't take her too seriously. Get out and talk to as many ladies as you can. No reason to put all of your eggs in one basket for a woman that behaves like this.
To keep this as compressed as I can, this woman was dating somebody in August who she was very into. (She made it clear on facebook pretty much every night how into him she was.) They weren't official, they were just dating. He was one of those "pretty boy bad boys." (After we eventually met, in a conversation we had, she told me she had a tendency to go for those guys in the past.) He screwed her over 3 or 4 weeks into them dating. She was sobbing on facebook, asking why she cant meet a good guy. I ended up asking her out on a date a couple of weeks later (I had added her over the summer through a dating site.) About two weeks after we met, we were in a relationship. (This was late September.) It happened so fast. She appreciated how I wasn't one of those jerk bad boys who was going to screw her over. (She hasn't been in an official relationship for about a year and that relationship ended abruptly when the badboy she was with at the time also screwed her over.) I'm very nice towards her. I do nice things for her, i Like alot of her facebook posts, etc. I've noticed on facebook she doesn't gush about me the same way she did the bad boy. The only statuses she'll tag me in is if I do something nice for her, she'll gloat about it on facebook. Sometimes she may tag me if we go out to dinner or go out on some kind of date. But she doesn't gush over my attractiveness the way she did with the bad boy.
I sent her a relationship status request on facebook when we became official. She accepted the request (making us facebook offical,) but she has her relationship status hidden on her profile. She's even gotten a new job in that time and she changed her workplace on facebook, but still didn't bother to make her relationship status visible. Im not in her profile picture or her cover picture. I've noticed over the last 3-4 weeks her facebook activity including me has gone waaayyyy down. She's tagged me in almost nothing for 3-4 weeks now. Which is uncommon for her with how Facebook-oriented she is. So, I decided to do some snooping. I look at her Recently Added Friends list on facebook, and I see she added a couple random guys. They both live in her area and both of their profiles say they're single. The one guy seems like a typical facebook w h o r e; thousands of friends, mostly females. I look at his profile pic, only to find that she "Liked" his profile pic. She also liked a random status he made sometime after adding her. So, I look on her Instagram, she added those same couple guys on instagram along with a few other seemingly random guys. One of them had model-like pictures, but he lives in our area. I'm fearing that she's trying to disguise herself as being single. What are your thoughts?
sadly I don't like this scenario one bit. I disagree that she has to make you feel as the previous men because she doesn't seem that into you but her secretly doing things is a red flag. Her focus should be on you and the life she is building.
You've ignored the fact that I noticed her adding random single guys in her area and liking their pictures. While her profile shows pretty much no indication that she's in a relationship. Whats the justification for that?
Why don't you take it up with her instead of asking on a public forum?
To keep this as compressed as I can, this woman was dating somebody in August who she was very into. (She made it clear on facebook pretty much every night how into him she was.) They weren't official, they were just dating. He was one of those "pretty boy bad boys." (After we eventually met, in a conversation we had, she told me she had a tendency to go for those guys in the past.) He screwed her over 3 or 4 weeks into them dating. She was sobbing on facebook, asking why she cant meet a good guy. I ended up asking her out on a date a couple of weeks later (I had added her over the summer through a dating site.) About two weeks after we met, we were in a relationship. (This was late September.) It happened so fast. She appreciated how I wasn't one of those jerk bad boys who was going to screw her over. (She hasn't been in an official relationship for about a year and that relationship ended abruptly when the badboy she was with at the time also screwed her over.) I'm very nice towards her. I do nice things for her, i Like alot of her facebook posts, etc. I've noticed on facebook she doesn't gush about me the same way she did the bad boy. The only statuses she'll tag me in is if I do something nice for her, she'll gloat about it on facebook. Sometimes she may tag me if we go out to dinner or go out on some kind of date. But she doesn't gush over my attractiveness the way she did with the bad boy.
I sent her a relationship status request on facebook when we became official. She accepted the request (making us facebook offical,) but she has her relationship status hidden on her profile. She's even gotten a new job in that time and she changed her workplace on facebook, but still didn't bother to make her relationship status visible. Im not in her profile picture or her cover picture. I've noticed over the last 3-4 weeks her facebook activity including me has gone waaayyyy down. She's tagged me in almost nothing for 3-4 weeks now. Which is uncommon for her with how Facebook-oriented she is. So, I decided to do some snooping. I look at her Recently Added Friends list on facebook, and I see she added a couple random guys. They both live in her area and both of their profiles say they're single. The one guy seems like a typical facebook w h o r e; thousands of friends, mostly females. I look at his profile pic, only to find that she "Liked" his profile pic. She also liked a random status he made sometime after adding her. So, I look on her Instagram, she added those same couple guys on instagram along with a few other seemingly random guys. One of them had model-like pictures, but he lives in our area. I'm fearing that she's trying to disguise herself as being single. What are your thoughts?
You're aware you are not her type. She flat out told you what her type is. You just didn't listen...
You're the nice guy. You're the inbetween guy. You're just the guy before the next guy..
The snooping did not reveal anything you didn't already know, so don't act like this is some kind of "shock" or betrayal. You already knew who you were dealing with, man. So don't get all up in arms over it now that's there no denying it anymore.
If she's on Facebook talking to random dudes her profile should be showing the "In a Relationship" tag. Men use Facebook partially as an online dating tool, well, some do anyway. This goes for any woman really. I would raise my eyebrow at someone that thinks otherwise..all of my friends that are married or in a relationship show that on their Facebook page.
Her Facebook activity sounds incredibly OTT. That would be off-putting to many guys, if not most. But I digress...
You really need to evaluate and feel confident in your actual relationship, not the one on Facebook. My husband was not even on Facebook when we met. Eventually he got an account at my behest (I set it up). I didn't care anything at all about being "Facebook-official." We may not have even done that until I moved in with him, not sure. He rarely posts anything on Facebook and I certainly don't need Facebook "shout-outs" from him. I never did, because I was confident about the relationship. What happens on Facebook doesn't matter. My advice is to live your relationship in person, not online. The rest is just noise. If you're so concerned about your social media status, you're doing it wrong.
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