Ex told me to move on. (dating, love, call, advice)
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Ex told me to move on in December. So I move on...then a week goes by she texts me then calls me when I don't respond. Then a week later texts me then calls me a week later. Once or twice a week I get a call or text from her. New Years she sent me a text "where are you going out to" I said no where. Later in the day I texted her and asked her why she asked me that and if it was so we didn't see each other. She responded with "just wondering"
A week goes by and she calls me and tells me the cellphone bill is going to be high. And I asked her again why she asked me about New Years... And now it was because "so we didn't see each other and it be weird".
I'm trying to move on, and as soon as I can I'm getting off the phone bill with her. Any thoughts on why she's doing this **** to me?
I posted before in the last couple
Months. Where I was chasing her after and she said couldn't forgive me or trust me again. But I backed off completely went NC but she kept reaching out to me..every time i asked her out it was it would be weird and I haven't fully forgiven you yet...and it's always the same thing "James idk if we will ever get back together" then she reaches out to me for random **** or about the phone bill.
I'm in a weird phase right now, it's like I would love to get back together but she isn't and by the time she might be ready I'll probably be to pissed off to say yes.
It's split 50/50 but she must be checking on me though. Because she got mad at me in December and said move on when I didn't do anything wrong. Then she reaches out to me and then New Years sends that text then says what I posted and says move on. I haven't heard from her in a week.
I've noticed a pattern, when she's dating someone she reaches out to me here and there but when she doesn't have someone she calls me more or talks to me about more personal stuff.
She's attempting to do the "we can just be friends" nonsense (I.E. let's be friends until I don't want to be anymore) so she can have everything go her way, when she wants it and how she wants it.
She will hang you out to dry on whatever it is you have done to make her feel badly when it serves some form of gain for her, but never fully detach herself from you becuase you will always come back to fulfill her needs in the moments she needs another's cooperation to fulfill them.
I think you understand you should be cutting her loose and telling her you don't think it's a good idea to be contacting one another. You just have no other options to reach out to and are use her in much of the same way she is attempting to use you right now.
It's setting up a dangerously unhealthy/offbalance relation to have to one another moving forward.
If you don't cut her loose like she told you she wanted, you can enjoy the potential of a rekindled relationship with someone who will run at the sign of any small relationship hiccup and guilt trip you to hell and back when they do not receive what they desire.
She is attempting to test how much you will buy in to by reaching back out to you after setting up the initial demands to back off in the first place...that's not just a red flag for a healthy functioning relationship as a whole, that's showing you how much she is capable of keeping committed to her own convictions as an individual...which can only cause issues later on when she encounters her own personal issues that test her commitments to others.
Last edited by rego00123; 01-15-2017 at 02:21 PM..
Is this the same exe that you went Disneyland with or she wanted you to ages and ages ago?
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