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Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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So over the last couple of weeks, I interacted with a match on Tinder and things were going ok. She seemed to like me. We made plans to meet for a date last week, she canceled the day before and gives me an excuse of having to travel for work. I didn't question that since that is a common DC area thing for jobs. We reschedule for over the weekend and she kind of draws back the communication. I text her the morning before and she cancels and gives me the excuse that her mother is sick. Mind you I had to ask her instead of her notifying me.
My attitude is that since she canceled on me twice she isn't interested so I decided to let her make the move of rescheduling this time and contact me or my point gets proven. Ain't heard from her in 4 days.
I think she did a passive rejection of me by canceling those dates. Do y'all agree?
Does it matter? For whatever reason she changed her mind. You never even met in person. It sucks to get flaked on, but it's part of dating. Really no need to overthink or analyze it too much.
So over the last couple of weeks, I interacted with a match on Tinder and things were going ok. She seemed to like me. We made plans to meet for a date last week, she canceled the day before and gives me an excuse of having to travel for work. I didn't question that since that is a common DC area thing for jobs. We reschedule for over the weekend and she kind of draws back the communication. I text her the morning before and she cancels and gives me the excuse that her mother is sick. Mind you I had to ask her instead of her notifying me.
My attitude is that since she canceled on me twice she isn't interested so I decided to let her make the move of rescheduling this time and contact me or my point gets proven. Ain't heard from her in 4 days.
I think she did a passive rejection of me by canceling those dates. Do y'all agree?
Likely. But not decisively so.
Sometimes people do indeed run into a rough patch. By sick mother, are we talking flu or something far worse? If you have an ailing parent, that's pretty much an all-consuming thing, one that means that dating someone is the last thing on your mind at the moment.
So here's what you do. Move on and be pleasantly surprised if she reaches back out again.
For my current man, we had issues early on and he thought I was lying about all this stuff suddenly coming up. (I was ill which got worse and then I was admitted inpatient for seven days. I figured I would get better so I kept delaying until I was too sick to respond. He let me have it, I told him the truth, he said I was jerking him around etc...but eventually it worked out. I was pissed though that he had zero compassion for me since I was being truthful. live and learn)
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Originally Posted by cpg35223
Likely. But not decisively so.
Sometimes people do indeed run into a rough patch. By sick mother, are we talking flu or something far worse? If you have an ailing parent, that's pretty much an all-consuming thing, one that means that dating someone is the last thing on your mind at the moment.
So here's what you do. Move on and be pleasantly surprised if she reaches back out again.
Dental work gone wrong sick. But I've pretty much marked this one as a lost cause and kept it moving. Honestly, I'd rather be ghosted than have someone give me the run-around when they aren't interested.
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