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Good for you for the way you handled her overture. I have been on both sides. I will usually have a nice quiet conversation with him and basically say that I don't want to date at this time. If he won't take no for an answer, I will not respond to his calls or text. If calls or text continue, I will block his number. I can deal with being rejected, that's life. There is a right way to do anything, and ghosting is the most coward way to end things.
100% this! As a guy, it's much easier for the woman to tell me direct: she can't be in a relationship. Any variety of things - "It's not you, it's me..." "I need to reassess my life..." "I just need time for me..." are all rejections! To which I say "See ya!" and I never contact her again.
Any guy who calls/texts continuously after hearing that deserves to get blocked. That's neediness and insecurity...and immature!
Oh, and did I mention in past threads that ghosting is immature also? And stupid! As far as people who ghost, what goes around, comes around!
I didn't really realize how hard it is to have the balls to have a straight and honest conversation with the other person. (i know, it's pathetic) When I went ghost on someone, I thought I did it so they would get the "hint" and I'm doing them a "favor" by letting them down gently--but that wasn't the case at all. I went ghost because it was easier for me to do; rather than me having the "courage" to tell someone that I wasn't interested in them in the most polite way.
This is probably tbe most honest thing I've seen on here.
I'd rather be the rejector. I'm a wuss though so usually when a guy acts like he's interested and I'm not, I talk about someone I'm "dating" even if I'm not seeing anyone lol.
I'd rather be the rejector. I'm a wuss though so usually when a guy acts like he's interested and I'm not, I talk about someone I'm "dating" even if I'm not seeing anyone lol.
That's actually smart and a good indirect soft rejection, whether it's true or not.
But, some players will still continue pursuing and pretend they didn't even hear that you're dating someone, lol.
Nobody in their right mind would want to be the rejectee.
I picked it because when it comes to random strangers hitting on me or me hitting on them, I really don't care what they think. If I'm rejected, so what. I know not everyone will be interested in me. Heck, I won't be most men's type. If rejected, I just forget about him and move on.
But I do know some people are emotional about being rejected by strangers. They really take it to heart. And I don't like to hurt people, so not being interested in someone like that feels bad because you are going to hurt them. And that makes me feel like crap.
So for me being rejected = who cares, move on to someone else. No hard feelings at all. But rejecting someone = possibly hurting someone's feels and then feeling bad about it.
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Definitely the rejector. I don't need a set to tell a woman no.
Hey whoever left me this rep comment. (Without signing their name, good show of cowardice.)
"Wow...classy guy"
Whatever. It isn't like I get much opportunity to reject women anyway. Plus most the time I just fade away before we ever even meet. Not exactly a heartbreaker here.
I definitely prefer to be the rejector although I hate hurting feelings and I'm not blunt at all so I've only done soft rejections.
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