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Hello,
I'm sorry to post this on the website area for marriage but just wanted some advice.
My wife is bipolar and also suffers from intense depression. This is killing our relationship and I want to move on.
Currently we live in PA but I am considering moving to my brother's house in Maryland so I can save on rent. I am also fearful that she will come after me in some way if I tell her I'm leaving or that she won't leave our house. I've told the landlord about us and he has ok'd us leaving our rental house. I'm not sure how to do all of this or what to do with all our stuff (much of it she can have) just know I need a change before something bad happens.
Then she has a treating physician who WILL be involved (=subpeona, deposition, etc.)
She'll likely also qualify for a legal representative as well like a guardian thing.
Just be glad you don't also have to manage custody issues.
But as said.. YOUR first step is a real attorney who does divorce.
Because you're married you can expect to have some extra obligations toward her
and her care beyond what a "normal" break up would enatil.
Similar to my former situation. My best suggestion is to expect a firestorm at some point and probably the authorities as well. Here's some thoughtful "grains"....
Gather anything important to you such as personal family papers, legal documents and only the most important life mementos. Have these placed, without her knowledge as best you can, in the care of a trusted friend. Everything else is just stuff.
If you expect her to become physically dangerous, do not retaliate in kind. Get the authorities involved quickly if she "freaks" and consider a PFA then and there. That will separate you.
Have some spare tires squirreled away somewhere and the number of a good automotive glass company handy. Trust me on that one.
I have in the past and she doesn't seem to care although Im not sure what she would do now vs then. I also have everything in my name and she doesn't work currently. She could go back to live with her family but my guess is I'll be Stuck paying for her to live in our house together for some time. Am I allowed to take our cars to my brother's? I own both (I know it doesn't mean much with this kind of situation) we have no kids and no joint accounts only thing she is on is the car insurance
Seems like you could do more to get her situated. I mean you promised for better or worse, sickness and health. Well, she is sick. If you won't stay, you won't, but at least get her set up first ..... and yeah, your questions are for a lawyer. These thing differ from state to state. Here she's own half of your cars, and half of what all you own. Spousal support keeps changing here so I couldn't even answer about TX much less another state.
I think what you are going to be going through legally will be very hard from a state away. Get an apartment so she knows it's real and then go about the legal proceedings and helping her get taken care of. File for disability, etc.
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