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What is up with girls and using passive aggressive techniques (silent treatment, coldness, etc) whenever you have done something wrong? The worst part is when you really have no idea what you have done wrong in the first place, and the silence just makes it more difficult to figure out what the problem is. I admit sometimes I use it too, but it's only for a short while, like a couple of hours max. I don't see the point for keeping up the silent treatment or coldness from a prolonged period of time, all it does is make both partners frustrated and leaves one partner confused and unsure
What is up with girls and using passive aggressive techniques (silent treatment, coldness, etc) whenever you have done something wrong? The worst part is when you really have no idea what you have done wrong in the first place, and the silence just makes it more difficult to figure out what the problem is. I admit sometimes I use it too, but it's only for a short while, like a couple of hours max. I don't see the point for keeping up the silent treatment or coldness from a prolonged period of time, all it does is make both partners frustrated and leaves one partner confused and unsure
Guys do this, too. I agree, it makes no sense, but it's actually a manipulation tactic. Manipulative, passive-aggressive people of both genders do this. Including you.
What is up with girls and using passive aggressive techniques (silent treatment, coldness, etc) whenever you have done something wrong? The worst part is when you really have no idea what you have done wrong in the first place, and the silence just makes it more difficult to figure out what the problem is. I admit sometimes I use it too, but it's only for a short while, like a couple of hours max. I don't see the point for keeping up the silent treatment or coldness from a prolonged period of time, all it does is make both partners frustrated and leaves one partner confused and unsure
Thats why you always have that one smoking hot female friend, so when you get the silent treatment, you give it in return and then they will always be wondering is she more than just a friend if you call her lol
But seriously, it is just selfishness and it goes for guys and girls. They see it as a way of revenge and it honestly is not resolving anything if it goes on for more than 1 day. Everyone needs a cool down period, but that kind of behavior shouldn't be a ll the time kind of thing.
Thats why you always have that one smoking hot female friend, so when you get the silent treatment, you give it in return and then they will always be wondering is she more than just a friend if you call her lol
But seriously, it is just selfishness and it goes for guys and girls. They see it as a way of revenge and it honestly is not resolving anything if it goes on for more than 1 day. Everyone needs a cool down period, but that kind of behavior shouldn't be a ll the time kind of thing.
A cool-down period from what, though? The OP said he never knows what he's done wrong; it's not as if they have arguments, and she gives him the silent treatment afterwards. He's getting it in response to day-to-day stuff, maybe saying the wrong thing, or not calling her when she thought he should have, or who knows what it's about. And she doesn't tell him, so he has no way of improving or correcting whatever the problem is.
This is BS behavior, OP, and you shouldn't put up with it. Move on to more mature people, and stop doing it yourself.
Walking away from an argument is not necessarily passive-aggressive. Sometimes it is choosing battles. If I'm annoyed by something, and it truly isn't worth addressing, or it is an obvious impasse, and hashing it out isn't going to result in a solution, anyway, I'm more likely to shut up than devote the time to attempting to hash it out. That isn't silent treatment, it's simply deciding it isn't a fight you're gonna pick.
I usually do it when I feel that the other person is clearly ignoring my feelings. But I usually end it when the other person apologizes/acknowledges my feelings. Girls seem to be much more serious with it
I usually do it when I feel that the other person is clearly ignoring my feelings. But I usually end it when the other person apologizes/acknowledges my feelings. Girls seem to be much more serious with it
I grew up with this kind of behavior. It's maddening.
If someone uses passive aggression with you, ignore it.
If you're obviously in the wrong, apologize for that and make amends, but if they just want to punish you for it with the silent treatment, don't play along.
Stop apologizing profusely. Don't walk on eggshells. Just go on with your day and let them act like an adult and TELL YOU what is wrong rather than pout about it.
I personally would not be in a relationship with someone who continually does this. It's immature.
My most recent ex boyfriend was the most passive aggressive person I've ever known in my life. Which is a huge reason why he's now an ex.
I get why you're frustrated, because when you're dealing with a pathological passive aggressive person, you pretty much never know where you stand because they're so manipulative. At some point you may even start questioning your own sanity. But my point is that this is a tactic used by both males and females in the context of relationships. It's not an exclusively female trait in relationships, so this gender bashing thing needs to stop. Find a more mature female to be around and don't pick someone who has this flaw about themselves.
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