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So wanted to give an update: I talked to her about it, she said she got it when she was 19 and she was just really angry going through some life issues then and got involved with the wrong people. She said she doesn't have any racist or prejudice views and she would remove it but hasn't really had the money to.
So wanted to give an update: I talked to her about it, she said she got it when she was 19 and she was just really angry going through some life issues then and got involved with the wrong people. She said she doesn't have any racist or prejudice views and she would remove it but hasn't really had the money to.
Why'd she ask if you've ever gone out with a Jew then? That isn't an every day getting to know you question:
"So what kind of music do you listen to?"
"you ever been with a Jew?"
"What do you think of the new restaurant down the street?"
"I used to hate Jews so bad that I had my body altered".
"One day I decided they were ok!"
...she hasn't had money in 11 years?
or did she mean she got involved with some badass Hindus?
So wanted to give an update: I talked to her about it, she said she got it when she was 19 and she was just really angry going through some life issues then and got involved with the wrong people. She said she doesn't have any racist or prejudice views and she would remove it but hasn't really had the money to.
There yah go... simple.
That is pretty darn angry to deface your own body though...
So I really need some advice. I have been on 4 dates with a woman that has always been nice and I have known for about a month before asking her out.
Everything between us has been great and we have so far had some fun dates, however on our last one we were at her place and at one point she dropped something and picked it up and not to sound like I was intentionally looking but as she picked it up the back of her jeans slipped down a bit (wearing low rise type jeans) and saw a swastika tattoo very low on her back. I was quite shocked, she has never said anything racist or the like.
Looking back the only thing in retrospect that seemed a little odd was during our last date we started talking about politics and got on the subject of our president and such (and not to stereotype but she is a big fan of trump) and I made mention that Israel will have some problem with trump and she asked if I had ever dated a Jewish woman. I said no and didn't really think much of it.
I never said anything to her when I saw it, and she is 30 so perhaps I am just being naive but I think it's possible she could have gotten it when she was very young and even if she did have racist beliefs she doesn't now but hasn't gotten it removed yet.
Should I confront her in a nice way next time we get together or just assume the worse and just immediately end it?
Anyone that equates Trump to racist only demonstrates to me they aren't very bright and highly influential. Not very attractive qualities.
Ask her about it sometime. "So I notice you have a swastika on you butt." "so you're telling me I'm dating a member of the Third Reich?"
You can playfully ask it. Ultimately whether or not she's a Nazi sympathizer is a deal breaker, but that's just me..
That would be an absolute deal-breaker for me. I would flat out end it -- no calls, no texting, nothing -- and if she contacted me to ask why I severed the contact with her, I would flat out tell her that I did not want to date someone with a tattoo like that.
There is NO excuse that would be acceptable to me. If she had had it done when she was younger and no longer felt that way, she should have had it removed before now.
As someone else said, even if the symbol was for something not as offensive as what most people think that a swastika represents, displaying such a symbol, in my opinion, shows an incredible lack of sensitivity, good sense and intelligence. But, yes, I do agree that everyone should have the right to freedom of expression, no matter how offensive it might be, just as I also believe that people should also have the right to not associate with people who -- in their opinion -- show such a lack of sensitivity, good taste, and good judgment.
well said.
Agreed. Not entirely surprised though as she's been described. Was probably hammered when she got the thing and has no clue what it stands for.
So wanted to give an update: I talked to her about it, she said she got it when she was 19 and she was just really angry going through some life issues then and got involved with the wrong people. She said she doesn't have any racist or prejudice views and she would remove it but hasn't really had the money to.
Since getting tattoos is not expensive, she could've had another one put over it in order to morph it into something else. She chose not to. She is what she is.
I have Be Still, im definitely not a still person.
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Seeing that she is obviously white why would it matter to her if he dated a Jewish woman, since they can be white?
huh? Didnt you attend History class in school?????
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My dads church is a United Methodist church built in 1917 and has Swastika symbols on the original floor. Doesnt mean they love Jews, Germans or Nazis. Its just the design the floor is done in.
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