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Playing hard to get is all part of the fun of courtship which I absolutely LOVE as it's exciting and adds to the chase/thrill
I'm sure if sex has already occurred then playing hard to get probably won't be the reason the bloke moved on , it usually happens BEFORE sex and in most cases it ends because the bloke can't read the signs, take the hint or cant be bothered with going through the motions of playfully playing hard to get
^^This!
There's a difference between being coy, flirty and not giving in so easily (but definitely showing interest) versus playing hard to get by sending mixed signals. I completely agree that it's exciting and adds to the thrill. (LC, you and I think waaaaaaaaay too much alike )
Not sure how a woman would/could play hard to get if they already sex
I think most people play this game whether they realize it or not.
'Well, I texted him, now it's his turn.'
'Im not calling her even though I can. I'll wait 3 days.'
You have to admit there is a level of game playing though.
It's like playing tennis: you serve the ball and wait. If they suck at returning the serve you may wait longer for them to get the ball and hit it back. There is no need to keep serving your balls at her... Wait.... I didn't mean what you are thinking.
I think most people play this game whether they realize it or not.
'Well, I texted him, now it's his turn.'
'Im not calling her even though I can. I'll wait 3 days.'
You have to admit there is a level of game playing though.
It's like playing tennis: you serve the ball and wait. If they suck at returning the serve you may wait longer for them to get the ball and hit it back. There is no need to keep serving your balls at her... Wait.... I didn't mean what you are thinking.
^^LOL!!!
That's not how I play "hard to get". I'm more flirty and coy *batting eyelashes*
There's a difference between being coy, flirty and not giving in so easily (but definitely showing interest) versus playing hard to get by sending mixed signals. I completely agree that it's exciting and adds to the thrill. (LC, you and I think waaaaaaaaay too much alike )
Not sure how a woman would/could play hard to get if they already sex
Don't we just!
To be honest I think the OP is confused with the playing hard to get AFTER sex part or the content of his OP is confusing , it sounds more like the lady has just gone off the bloke some way and he just puts it down to her playing hard to get when in reality she's just being evasive and losing interest! LOL.
It's confusing as I've not met a lady that does that.
To be honest I think the OP is confused with the playing hard to get AFTER sex part or the content of his OP is confusing , it sounds more like the lady has just gone off the bloke some way and he just puts it down to her playing hard to get when in reality she's just being evasive and losing interest! LOL.
It's confusing as I've not met a lady that does that.
Perhaps she's being evasive and/or losing interest AFTER they had sex because it wasn't good. I'm not even trying to be snarky.
Is playing hard-to-get a reason to dump a woman...
Don't play. It's not a game.
If you feel you have a reason to actually BE hard to get... embrace it.
Just don't expect that many men will stick around very long.
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...after getting what you want from her?
If the sex is one sided like you describe...
that the woman doesn't ALSO want to have sex...
then yeah... she'll be dumped by most men once this is fully realized.
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The wanting to and prolonging when ... that's OK. From both sides.
There is a lot to be said for the frisson of anticipation.
But not so sure if (with one person in particular or at all) and waiting to see if that changes...? Not so much.
Last edited by MrRational; 02-17-2017 at 07:45 AM..
The idea is this: some women play hard-to-get, so men can feel it is justified to have the intention of dumping a girl after getting what they like to get. Do men have such mentality? Also, does it seem justifiable? Why, or why not?
What is the mentality of going into a relationship with the intention of "getting what they like"? If they have gotten "what they like" why do they need a justifiable excuse to pursue it no further?
Threads like this make me wonder if the human race is sustainable. This is how 17-year-old boys view relationships and sex. What adult woman would put up with it?
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, it usually happens BEFORE sex and in most cases it ends because the bloke can't read the signs, take the hint or cant be bothered with going through the motions of playfully playing hard to get 
