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With me, that wouldn't be the case. If a woman unnecessarily plays hard to get, then I'll likely just move on to someone that won't play these childish games.
Pretty much.
But I never played hard to get. I'm not coy and am far too direct for silly games. No time for such nonsense.
Threads like this make me wonder if the human race is sustainable. This is how 17-year-old boys view relationships and sex. What adult woman would put up with it?
There are a lot of 20 and 30-somethings who view dating and relationships this way. Perhaps because healthy relationships were not modeled during their early and formative years. And various micro-cultures that perpetuate these attitudes. No wonder so many have dysfunctional relationships and attitudes toward dating.
Hard to get as "get away from me you creep" versus "I've enjoyed our first date, get your hand off my boob"?
In my experience, guys like girls who are hard to get. Ones who have a life, aren't' desperate for male attention, have hobbies, and are looking for someone who adds to their lives (and the other way around).
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Disagree respectfully. I am 100% honest with my intentions each time and do no game playing and I expect the same from the woman I choose to get involved with. If she wants to be immature and mess with my head I'll cut her off. No exceptions.
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Originally Posted by Hackopotamus
You must be young. But even young guys don't like the chase. They do it because they are young and desperate and don't know any better!
Older guys don't have time for that BS nor do they want to be with someone that "plays games".
Yes, this. The majority of the dudes that behaved this way, back when I was dating, were younger. Certainly not all, but definitely more compared to older men. I wasn't interested in dating younger men for a multitude of reasons. The men I typically dated, 34-45, weren't into these games. They were upfront and honest and expected the same. They had no time, energy or patience for games.
I agree. Don't listen to the whole "I don't play games" BS. Everybody plays games, even in nonromantic situations. It's a terrible idea to give a guy what he wants immediately because he'll dump you faster more times than not. Or if he hangs around he'll only see you as booty. Guys like the chase and like girls who are hard to get. Not saying all guys are like this but it's easier to gauge them out if you play hard to get, or more like playing it cool.
Hmm, this is interesting. So playing it cool makes the guy chase you even after sex?
Yes, this. The majority of the dudes that behaved this way, back when I was dating, were younger. Certainly not all, but definitely more compared to older men. I wasn't interested in dating younger men for a multitude of reasons. The men I typically dated, 34-45, weren't into these games. They were upfront and honest and expected the same. They had no time, energy or patience for games.
If guys don't like the chase then women shouldn't be criticized and disrespected for being "easy". Sadly I hear women getting called that all the time if we give it up too quickly.
Hmm, this is interesting. So playing it cool makes the guy chase you even after sex?
I never said that. I don't know what a guy will do after sex and sometimes neither does the guy. I have heard of situations where the guy just knew he wasn't going to see a girl again after the fact that they've had sex.
A person setting boundaries is not playing hard to get. She may just be trying to protect herself.
I personally, would never go out with someone at the last minute. I needed at least a few days notice for a date. So just because someone can't snap their fingers and make me do something, doesn't mean I'm playing any game.
Also, a woman refusing to have sex on the first date is not playing hard to get. She is being smart and wanting to get to know someone better. There are many social diseases out there, these days. She may want to get to know someone first.
I agree. Don't listen to the whole "I don't play games" BS. Everybody plays games, even in nonromantic situations. It's a terrible idea to give a guy what he wants immediately because he'll dump you faster more times than not. Or if he hangs around he'll only see you as booty. Guys like the chase and like girls who are hard to get. Not saying all guys are like this but it's easier to gauge them out if you play hard to get, or more like playing it cool.
Yeah, because all of us think exactly the same
I'd move on if a woman deliberately played hard to get. Ain't got time for that..
That being said, I don't mind the chase, TO AN EXTENT. If a woman constantly overdoes it, then I'm just going to move on to a woman that doesn't play these childish games.
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