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This is something I have wondered about sometimes. What are common reasons for People to remarry after 30, 40 and 50+ years of Marriage? I am talking Marriages that (were happy ones) ends in the Death of Spouse, not Divorce. Especially when they remarry only a couple after their last spouse death.
I can understand after 10 or 20 Years of Marriage but I wonder about Marriages that were much longer than that. Personally If I was Married for 40 years or 50 years and My spouse I do no think I marry again but that just me.
I don't have a problem with people remarrying after being with a spouse for many decades. Though If I was a Child of a Parent who remarried after being with My Mom or Dad for 50 years I would find it kind of weird or hard to getting used to. Especially if other parents died only a couple years before.
I have a Great-Great grandparent who was happily married for 51 years and had 9 Children. My Great-Great Grandmother died in 1964 and My Great-Great Grandfather married again at age 71 in just under 2 years later after her death to a woman who was actually same age and had also been widowed once. That Second Marriage only last Five Years when she died.
I think a lot of it has to do with feeling lonely and wanting the companionship side of the relationship or the Company. My Great-Great Grandfather was definitely lonely despite having all those Kids and Grandkids around but in some ways that really can't compare to having that other person around.
My Great-Great Grandfather never married again and It would be 11 more Years (after his second wife died) befoe he would join my Great-Great Grandmother. My Grandma told me she and My Grandpa would go to his House (This was My Maternal Grandpa Maternal grandfather) a lot because they did not want him to be alone.
Last edited by NorthwestResident; 03-22-2017 at 11:29 PM..
Companionship can be very important to people who've never been without it for decades and decades at a time. Older men who've been widowed or divorced also tend to remarry more quickly and reliably than their female counterparts, who are more inclined to stay single in larger numbers. This is thought to be the case because women are more likely to have developed strong, supportive platonic relationships in addition to their marital relationships, and aren't as dependent upon a spouse, alone, for companionship and support. Men, especially as they age, are more inclined to put all those eggs in the spouse basket.
Companionship can be very important to people who've never been without it for decades and decades at a time. Older men who've been widowed or divorced also tend to remarry more quickly and reliably than their female counterparts, who are more inclined to stay single in larger numbers. This is thought to be the case because women are more likely to have developed strong, supportive platonic relationships in addition to their marital relationships, and aren't as dependent upon a spouse, alone, for companionship and support. Men, especially as they age, are more inclined to put all those eggs in the spouse basket.
I am a recent widower. We had a very good, happy 38 years together. I have lots of friends and family around me. But I still want the companionship and the partner to finish this life with. I want someone who joins me and we live life as one.
It is not right or wrong for someone to remarry or not remarry after the loss of a spouse. There is no set time frame. There really aren't any rules. And as widows/widowers, we don't give a flying chicken what anyone thinks or says. We have suffered enough.
I told my children I could not live the rest of my life alone. they understand and are fine with it. Nobody else really matters.
Age or how long you were married has nothing to do with it. Some of us just want to be alone and some of us refuse to be alone. I don't want to spend the rest of my life crying over lost memories. I want to make new ones. When I die and my life passes before my eyes, I want it to be interesting and a long movie filled with love and joy.
For many it is an unaware realization that life has an end and it's approaching sooner than later. We reflect on life past and feel the time gone in our minds and bodies.
Life doesn't get easier the more we age, it gets harder. A supportive partner in life offers a huge benift for mental and physical health.
The remarriage is a reflection of this and a praising of how much life has improved by having the other in life to make life just that little bit more comfortable.
If a person was happily married they are more likely to believe they can be again. I know this is true for me after only a 15 year marriage before being widowed.
it is their life and their choose and their way of doing things,, why that need to be our problem.
Who said it was a Problem? I surely didn't
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