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Yep. People will say it's making a big deal over nothing, but when you like cooking and eating new things it's really disappointing to be with someone who wants everything plain or who won't leave their comfort zone. It affects how you eat, how you travel, how you socialize, etc.
Not really. I will find something to eat anywhere I go. I still enjoy the company and atmosphere.
Honestly, everything from the OP leads me to believe that he would have understood any option that she chose to deal with the situation rather than NOT dealing with the situation. That's why I really don't have any sympathy because she showed she was not willing to deal with an unpleasant situation which would be a turn off for me.
Yeah, but the OP also said that he didn't want to be on the hook for paying for two dinners when she didn't eat the first one, so that would have put her in another awkward spot--should she assume that he's paying? would she insult him if she insisted that she paid her own way? I don't think she could win in this situation.
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Sending food back because you don't care for a disclosed ingredient is pretty lame. I agree that she might have been aware of this and didn't want to make this faux pas.
It is. I just eat it. If it isn't going to kill me, just eat it.
I just re-read the OP and nowhere did it say his date complained about the situation, just that she didn't like her meal. I've picked at restaurant meals before that I didn't really enjoy and it wasn't the end of the world.
It's possible that there's the SANITATION angle to consider, with sun-dried tomatoes. I worry about where they came from, and whether flies have been laying eggs on them.
I also worry about salads in restaurants (and people are always ordering salads "for me", because I'm "into health food" , in conference situations, where things run-on, and suddenly I'm hearing that lunch is being sent-in, , and becoming angry, because I won't touch my salads - which, beyond being questionable from a parasites angle, generally have dressings so laden with sugar, they'll send me into a hypoglycemic meltdown, if I consume them). Much of that is because I'm married to a Chemical Engineer, and the mother of a girl who became a Surgeon. Both of them have always been analytical about parasite threats in food (they prepare the salad ingredients at our house).
Our daughter, who is not a "typical female" (that is, a helpless little sad-sack, whose life-strategy is finding parental figures to perpetually "rescue" her), had a good strategy for dates. She'd get asked-out, and would reply with, "Only if you let ME pay." One advantage, was that when she'd encounter something she considered unsanitary, or too sugary, or laced with Monosodium Glutamate, she wasn't wasting her date's money, by not consuming the iffy item.
So, maybe OP's date is just cautious. Grilling waitstaff about the food, is a good way to get your food sabotaged. Asking too many questions, is as dangerous as sending things back. Personally, I never ask questions, and never criticize anything. I limit my comments to, "Wonderful!" and "THANK you!". I'm terrified of waitstaff, and of unsanitary practices in kitchens, and really, really HATE dining in restaurants.
Really, the question seems to be: Is OP's date simply cautious, and not wanting to be a bother? Or, is she the classic helpless, frightened, finicky, difficult, impossible-to-please, PERPETUAL LITTLE GIRL, who'll ruin his life, if he becomes involved with her?
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And to respond to: "I think it's best for everyone involved if you avoid eating in restaurants.
And what a charming way to describe your interpretation of the "typical female". Happy International Womens day to you, too, you "helpless little sad sack"! "
It's possible that there's the SANITATION angle to consider, with sun-dried tomatoes. I worry about where they came from, and whether flies have been laying eggs on them.
I also worry about salads in restaurants (and people are always ordering salads "for me", in conference situations, where things run-on, and suddenly I'm hearing that lunch is being sent-in, because I'm "into health food", and becoming angry, because I won't touch my salads - which, beyond being questionable from a parasites angle, generally have dressings so laden with sugar, they'll send me into a hypoglycemic meltdown, if I eat them). Much of that is because I'm married to a Chemical Engineer, and the mother of a girl who became a Surgeon. Both of them have always been analytical about parasite threats in food (they prepare the salad ingredients at our house).
Our daughter, who is not a "typical female" (a helpless little sad-sack whose life-strategy is finding parental figures to perpetually "rescue" her), had a good strategy for dates. She'd get asked-out, and would reply with, "Only if you let ME pay." One advantage, was that when she'd encounter something she considered unsanitary, or too sugary, or laced with Monosodium Glutamate, she wasn't wasting her date's money, by not consuming the iffy item.
So, maybe OP's date is just cautious. Grilling waitstaff about the food, is a good way to get your food sabotaged. Asking too many questions, is as dangerous as sending things back. Personally, I never ask questions, and never criticize anything. I limit my comments to, "Wonderful!" and "THANK you!". I'm terrified of waitstaff, and of unsanitary practices in kitchens, and really, really HATE dining in restaurants.
I think it's best for everyone involved if you avoid eating in restaurants.
And what a charming way to describe your interpretation of the "typical female". Happy International Womens day to you, too, you "helpless little sad sack"!
I think it is pretty safe to say that the OP wasn't into her, and the dreaded tomato paste incident wasn't the deciding factor.
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