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Here we go again, turning molehills into mountains. She went shopping with her friends. So what? As others have said, she probably thought she'd be in your way.
I don't think you should be mad. Just look at it as a learning experience.
Since you've done work for her father there before, she probably just thought of it as another project YOU were working on and didn't think much of leaving while you were working.
It would have been NICE if she had stayed with you, but really you should just say so next time. Open communication is really important in a relationship, so just tell her next time you'd love some help from her.
If she continually does things that are inconsiderate of your feelings, you may want to rethink things.
I can see why you'd be miffed. You're doing her a favor by doing some work that will benefit her and she goes off to have fun with friends. If I were her I'd have asked if I could help or how long it would take you and if you wanted company (even if it meant me catching up on facebook while you did your thing!) but that's because I would be grateful for what you were doing.
I guess if she viewed it as you just doing something to get experience with wiring, etc. maybe it wouldn't occur to her. So no, I wouldn't expect her to read my mind (as everyone is saying) but it would be a courtesy to inquire since you're helping her out. If she is ordinarily nice and thoughtful, I'd let it pass...otherwise maybe it's a(nother) sign that she's just taking what she can get from you? But that's a bit extreme. She may not be thoughtless but she's not especially thoughtful either.
Oh, it does.. It's just that her level of comfort is different from her parents. When they're comfortable, she's cold.
I didn't completely rewire her room. She still has the original outlets on the 15-amp circuit, but I just added a new 20-amp circuit for 2 new outlets, one that she plugs the heater into. And no, she has no plans to move out any time soon, unless I marry her. I don't even have my own place yet, but plan to later this year after I get my journeyman license.
Cool, OP. I've never known any guys who could do anything like this. You're helping her feather her nest; very romantic.
When I was growing up my dad made up a rule that if he was fixing our bikes or vehicles we had to help. Even if all we did was hand him tools or hold the flash light, we had to participate.
So no, the OP is not out of line with his expectation. She might have not been raised with the same rules, so it's up to him to ask her to give him a hand in the future.
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