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So , I'm going to be 40 . My wife of being together 20yrs left me for her new love . Left me , left our 3 kids , left her mom , sister , dad . Yea yea , poor me . But what I'm asking is , how many people have found someone in this situation , to be with . Been trying to focus on the kids right now , not even ready to look , maybe in a year , if ever . But it seems when I take them places , at my age , it's all familes with thier own intact situations .
Been a while since I've been looking . But just seems at 40 everyone is going to be taken . I'm sure I can't be the only guy in this spot . Just looking for experience .
Im the same age and yes its hard. I think you need to be ready for it at any age. I'm currently talking to a guy with kids. Which makes it easier in the sense we are both parents.Know the responsibilities that comes with being a parent. But don't let it define you. You are still human and need fun with love.
I am hurting , alot right now . But at the same time it's almost a blessing . To much back ground to explain . But I just don't know if at this point it becomes a compromise, as this is as good as I will find , or if it might be a better thing just that what you had .
Where would you meet people even ? I'm thinking a bar is a bad spot , but when I go out with kids , your obviously in a kid seniero , and it's gonna be a family environment. My papers arnt even filedyet ,I'm deffenity not looking , but it just seems 20 years ago you have your pick (at least tried at at ) , now not so much . It's just a burning question kinda , of most likely just being alone .
Is anyone in this situation alone , reading this , and happy . Because that's another option .
I am hurting , alot right now . But at the same time it's almost a blessing . To much back ground to explain . But I just don't know if at this point it becomes a compromise, as this is as good as I will find , or if it might be a better thing just that what you had .
Where would you meet people even ? I'm thinking a bar is a bad spot , but when I go out with kids , your obviously in a kid seniero , and it's gonna be a family environment. My papers arnt even filedyet ,I'm deffenity not looking , but it just seems 20 years ago you have your pick (at least tried at at ) , now not so much . It's just a burning question kinda , of most likely just being alone .
Is anyone in this situation alone , reading this , and happy . Because that's another option .
Wait a year until everything is taken care of.
And many meet online but some like me meet from friends setting me up.
I know of three guys off the top of my head with kids who got divorced at about the 40 mark, and are now happily remarried. In fact, one now has two more kids with his new wife. I know one met his new wife at work, not sure where the others met theirs.
Yes, 40 is young. Think about where you were 25 years ago, and how far you've come and how much you have changed. You've had lots of different phases in your life.
You have to be able to look at the big picture without becoming overwhelmed. Don't think about the specifics of your future in terms of dating and love right now. Just tell yourself, "Yes, it's possible," and leave it at that. Then focus on the immediate work involved in repairing your emotional self so you can be a great dad for your kids and an even better person.
I left my wife at about your age and we have 3 kids also. When my marriage was good it was functional. It never was very loving.
When I left I had some confidence that I could find someone to date and possibly have some fun with. As it turned out I fell deeply in love with a woman I'm still with. We aren't married, but I know I'm happy and I believe she is also. So yes, it happens. Good luck.
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I know one met his new wife at work, not sure where the others met theirs.
