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Hello, I need some relationship advice for my younger sister. My younger sister is in her mid twenties and lives a blue collar city with a lopesided gender ratio. The fact that there are so many more men than women has turned the dating scene where she lives into a nightmare.
For starters because there is a shortage of women and young women especially, there is a huge stripper scene as well as underground prostitution industry. My sister says it's impossible to meet a man where she lives that doesn't sleep with strippers or prositutes on a semi regular basis. All her single male friends and coworkers are pretty open about doing this as well. My sister has OCD and it makes physically ill thinking being with a man that was with a Prositute.
My sister says when she goes out at night that bars are basically filled with men. She says she doesn't feel comfortable approaching any of the men in bars because they are usually hangout in groups. The times she has approached a group of men they have given her a dirty look or just ignored her. She says that at most bars the men prefer to hangout with each other doing guy stuff like drinking beer, watching sport, or playing a game of pool then talk to women. The only women in these bars are the waitresses/bartenders or really skanky looking females. Often times there will females that don't fit those descriptions that are in the bars but usually only for a short period of time before leaving.
My sister also says that the only time she does gets approach it would be by very creepy or homeless looking men. In the six months my sister has lived in this place she has been solicited for prostitution by very creepy looking men, had several homeless looking men follow her around yelling obscenities and one men atttempt to sexually assault her(luckily a male friend scared him off). My sister says she never gets approached by any normal men, every guy that has approached her has been off in someway or another.
So what would you do if you were in my sister' position? She can't leave this city yet and actually enjoys her job there. It's just the dating scene that has been terrible. Have any women experienced living in a predominantly male blue collar town before? If so, how did you guys survive the dating scene?
You'd think the gender ratio would be a good thing. Has she tried dating well-educated white collar men, like those in management? If guys in the bars are that rough, she should stay away.
This is a situation where she needs to very specific about her online dating requirements. They should NOT have slept with prostitutes or frequent strip clubs, for example. Even if church isn't her thing, she needs to find the geeky crowd: IT guys, engineers, teachers, librarians, etc.
You'd think the gender ratio would be a good thing. Has she tried dating well-educated white collar men, like those in management? If guys in the bars are that rough, she should stay away.
Guys like to hang out in bars and give women dirty looks to stay away.
Not true. Period. Or so rare, you can walk down the street to another bar.
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Sounds a lot like my hometown of Hampton Roads, VA. Military and blue collar area with a lot of prostitution. Don't know what to tell you. I'd just avoid being out at night altogether.
This is sort of on topic but just asking for clarification on this please as I don't understand why
Most couples I know even married ones met in a bar/club/pub so that's not the issue in my opinion. I don't understand why people think it's only a lesser calibre or class of people that frequent them? And why people tend to stereotype that scene with people that's predominantly looking for only hook ups and not love/relationship etc
It's just another venue and a great way to meet and socialise with people and the ironic thing is that once you've met someone regardless of where you meet them for quite a few people the chances are quite highthat you'll end up going out for drinks in a bar on a date! LOL.
Thank you in advanced for whom ever can clarify and for your time
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