Am I being too insecure? (boyfriend, girlfriend, women, single)
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So my girlfriend sent me a picture of her laying on the beach in her bikini in a sexy pose from over spring break and she looks really good. She wanted to post it on Instagram because she said she'd get so many likes if she did. Now, I didn't tell her not to post it because I'm not a controlling boyfriend, but she just decided not to post it anyway. I'm honestly glad she didn't because in all honesty yeah it would have made me jealous, shoot me. Like I don't care about her wearing a bikini in front of guys because that's kinda psycho and I don't have that much jealousy issues haha. But her posting something on social media of her in a bikini is a bit different to me bc she's really just posting it for attention and likes. She's basically posting it to show off her half-naked body for everyone to see. She's a very pretty girl but it's like she tries to impress other guys for self-esteem boost and my compliments aren't good enough. The fact that she told me "I'd get so many likes" kinda bothers me too. I feel social media has messed with women's heads these days bc they think they need to look a certain way and post revealing pictures of themselves to make them feel better. It'll just bother me because I know she'll get a lot of guys commenting on it and I feel like that's what she secretly wants. Idk.
So my girlfriend sent me a picture of her laying on the beach in her bikini in a sexy pose from over spring break and she looks really good. She wanted to post it on Instagram because she said she'd get so many likes if she did. Now, I didn't tell her not to post it because I'm not a controlling boyfriend, but she just decided not to post it anyway. I'm honestly glad she didn't because in all honesty yeah it would have made me jealous, shoot me. Like I don't care about her wearing a bikini in front of guys because that's kinda psycho and I don't have that much jealousy issues haha. But her posting something on social media of her in a bikini is a bit different to me bc she's really just posting it for attention and likes. She's basically posting it to show off her half-naked body for everyone to see. She's a very pretty girl but it's like she tries to impress other guys for self-esteem boost and my compliments aren't good enough. The fact that she told me "I'd get so many likes" kinda bothers me too. I feel social media has messed with women's heads these days bc they think they need to look a certain way and post revealing pictures of themselves to make them feel better. It'll just bother me because I know she'll get a lot of guys commenting on it and I feel like that's what she secretly wants. Idk.
I feel that social media has messed with people's heads (not just women). Heck, social media has messed with my head.
I think at this point it is natural for people to have insecurities and experience some form of jealousy. It is just how we handle it that makes the difference.
I feel that social media has messed with people's heads (not just women). Heck, social media has messed with my head.
I think at this point it is natural for people to have insecurities and experience some form of jealousy. It is just how we handle it that makes the difference.
So how should I go about handling it? I just didn't say anything when she said she was going to post it because I didn't want to be controlling. But I didn't tell her how I feel about it so there's still a chance she might post it later or do something like that again. Is it okay for a girl to do this if she's in a relationship and should I not be concerned? I know a lot of girls do stuff like that but I feel it's generally something single girls do.
You may not be insecure but if she just wants to post it for attention, it sounds like she is.
She didn't really say she wants to post it for attention, just that she'd get a lot of likes. But really why else would she post a bikini picture alone of her posing if it wasn't for attention? She's obviously showing off her body, right?
OP...you covered it all. That is how it is with kids.
Gotta let he do her thing unless she likes to be controlled.
So if I let her do her thing then I guess another question would be is do you think it's okay for a girl in a relationship to post something like that?
Is there a difference in posting for attention and posting for "likes"?
I mean getting likes on social media is getting attention
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