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Try to imagine if your girl came on her to discuss a problem she's having with her boyfriend...
"Hi, I'm an 18 yr. old girl in love with an 18 yr. old guy. I love him to death. We've only been dating 2 months, but we do everything together, and we're so on point in everything, but this ONE particular thing...
I'm going on Schoolies soon, and I've been looking forward to it for a year. My boyfriend says he loves me, but doesn't trust me to not get ****faced, and thinks I'll **** around on him. I love him. I don't want to hurt him, and he SAYS he loves me, but apparently thinks I'm a ****.
What should I do?"
You know what most of us would tell her? "Go do your thing, and have fun. If he doesn't trust you, it's his problem."
Or at any rate, that's what I would tell her.
Point taken, but when she admits that she is actively planning to get plastered, knowing what it does to her inhibitions and states that she plans to party all night, it damages the amount of trust she should be afforded in that instance.
OP, you'd just have to consider the idea that, for the week she is there, she is not your girlfriend. It's not indicative of future behavior (remember, she planned this before the two of you became an item), but you have to decide if you can see your way beyond her behavior for this one week.
Eh, give her a one-week pass - "ask me no questions and I'll tell you no lies".
You've been in a "relationship" for 8 weeks which is barely the blink of an eye. Are you actually exclusive -meaning have you discussed it or are you assuming? Big difference....
Point taken, but when she admits that she is actively planning to get plastered, knowing what it does to her inhibitions and states that she plans to party all night, it damages the amount of trust she should be afforded in that instance.
OP, you'd just have to consider the idea that, for the week she is there, she is not your girlfriend. It's not indicative of future behavior (remember, she planned this before the two of you became an item), but you have to decide if you can see your way beyond her behavior for this one week.
Yeah. She's 18. A lot of 18 yr. olds do that. HERE in the US, it's more like 21, but it's a rite of passage.
At any rate...the OP and the girlfriend are NOT on the same page here. Honestly, the 2 of them should probably save themselves a lot of aggravation and move on.
Eh, give her a one-week pass - "ask me no questions and I'll tell you no lies".
You've been in a "relationship" for 8 weeks which is barely the blink of an eye. Are you actually exclusive -meaning have you discussed it or are you assuming? Big difference....
I said multiple times before, yes we discussed it and idk about that idea
I think it would be classic **** shaming if he went to schoolies and met this young woman a few months later and had a problem with her having gone. I think he can be forgiven for being uncomfortable with the prospect of her going to what sounds like a week long orgy.
I also think she can be forgiven for wanting to so this fun right of passage thing that many of her friends are going to and that she's been looking forward to.
Yeah. She's 18. A lot of 18 yr. olds do that. HERE in the US, it's more like 21, but it's a rite of passage.
At any rate...the OP and the girlfriend are NOT on the same page here. Honestly, the 2 of them should probably save themselves a lot of aggravation and move on.
OP is convinced the girl is going to **** around.
I don't think that just because so many do it makes it right but to each their own, and I'm honestly trying my best not to be convinced about that, but just when everything adds up, the environment, her behaviour when she's usually drunk, the people there and the fact she won't even know what she's doing and the amount of times people have cheated even the most innocent girls, can't help but think it
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