Ended the relations with the man I love

[Frihed89]

Originally Posted by BobNJ1960

I think you dodged a bullet.

Maybe, maybe not. The OP's attention to her child is the real battle ground. I faced a similar situation with my wife to be. It came to a showdown one afternoon, when in the middle of a date, she wanted to return home and be with her son, 14 at the time. We parted. After I got back to my flat, it hit me that this child was her life. Could I live with that, I asked myself? All I knew was that I was firmly attached to her emotionally, and I had a choice to view this as a threat or to accept that she WAS trying to balance her treatment of the people she loved deeply.

We've been together for 20 years, married for almost 19. Now, she has 2 grand-children. She has a big heart, and I no longer doubt her love for me.

[Dreamer_girl]

Originally Posted by ellie

I thought he had given you an ultimatum: marry or split. If you chose "split" by texting him, then you would be asking for forgiveness if you changed your mind and decided you wanted to marry.

Since he doesn't seem to want to communicate then it's over and there's no going back.

Well, it was not only my decision. He needed time to take the decision too. And it's too early to say he won't call. I broke up with him 16 hours ago. Knowing him, I can say that he will call me, but it will take time, as he never does things without carefully thinking about everything. The only thing I'm sure about is that I won't be the first one to make the first step.

[Dreamer_girl]

Originally Posted by Frihed89

Maybe, maybe not. The OP's attention to her child is the real battle ground. I faced a similar situation with my wife to be. It came to a showdown one afternoon, when in the middle of a date, she wanted to return home and be with her son, 14 at the time. We parted. After I got back to my flat, it hit me that this child was her life. Could I live with that, I asked myself? All I knew was that I was firmly attached to her emotionally, and I had a choice to view this as a threat or to accept that she WAS trying to balance her treatment of the people she loved deeply.

We've been together for 20 years, married for almost 19. Now, she has 2 grand-children. She has a big heart, and I no longer doubt her love for me.

A very romantic story. You were wise enough to understand how your woman felt at that time. Not all men can do this.