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The kind of flirting I'm talking about is NOT the type of flirting you would do when striking up a fun convo with the grocery store cashier or engaging in playful banter with a co-worker or a party guest.
The type of flirting I'm referring to is the kind that would be considered inappropriate by significant others or spouses with regard to their husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend flirting with a member of the opposite gender. And this could be flirting that is occurring IRL or via text.
I think the main reason people flirt with the opposite gender is because they have a sexual attraction and/or a romantic interest in that person and they want to amp up the communication so they can get closer to them. IMO though, when a person is in a monogamous committed relationship OR is married, flirting with the opposite sex should go completely OUT the window - permanently.
Married people or people in relationships who flirt with the opposite sex could be asking for trouble - either from their SO/spouse or from the individual they're flirting with...it could lead to hurt feelings, suspicions, mistrust, jealousy and could possibly even lead to cheating; whether it develops into an EA or PA.
Some people believe that flirting is "harmless" and that just because a person is in a relationship, it doesn't mean that "they're dead". They believe that as long as it stays as a 'simple flirtation' that it's perfectly okay and if their SO or spouse is bothered by it, then it means they are insecure, immature and controlling.
Other people think that flirting is inappropriate when a person is in a relationship or is married and that they shouldn't engage in it at all because it would be disrespectful to their partner and that it is sleazy behaviour for a committed person to display.
Should married people or people who are in a committed monogamous relationship flirt with the opposite sex? Or should they respect the boundaries of their relationship/marriage and keep ALL interactions with the opposite gender on a completely platonic level?
The kind of flirting I'm talking about is NOT the type of flirting you would do when striking up a fun convo with the grocery store cashier or engaging in playful banter with a co-worker or a party guest.
The type of flirting I'm referring to is the kind that would be considered inappropriate by significant others or spouses with regard to their husband/wife/girlfriend/boyfriend flirting with a member of the opposite gender. And this could be flirting that is occurring IRL or via text.?
I think some flirting is harmless. I have been in Vegas with girlfriends before and we have chatted with men while at bars or gambling. Sometimes there can be casual flirting. No lines crossed. But it's casual harmless chatting that ends quickly and means nothing. My husband went to a concert a while ago with some friends from work. One of the friends brought some other women. He told me afterwards one was flirting with him the whole night. He doesn't wear a wedding ring ( neither to I), so at one point he just said' not sure if you know but I'm married". But it was all harmless, didn't bother me. In fact, I'm glad that he is still attractive to others, hasn't let himself go etc.
This is something couples need to discuss. I'm pretty unconcerned with flirting, but I can see where some people would want to draw the line sooner than others.
Well, the OP clarified at the first post that she was talking about the kind of flirting that would be considered innapropriate to the significant other, so that's what I based my answer on.
I DO agree that there's harmless flirting which is no big deal at all.
Depends on the person, their relationship, and the situation.
Thisis agree.... my previous SO and I would playfully flirt with people we consider close friends... neither side really taking it seriously. With other SOs of my past, No.... especially those that can het a bit jealous or uncomfortable.
Pretty much anything that the couple decides is inappropriate is inappropriate.
Thisis agree.... my previous SO and I would playfully flirt with people we consider close friends... neither side really taking it seriously. With other SOs of my past, No.... especially those that can het a bit jealous or uncomfortable.
Pretty much anything that the couple decides is inappropriate is inappropriate.
No. It's something that I'm really struggling with, but it's not right. I know what my intentions are even if I try to lie to myself. I don't know about other guys, but for me and for some of the people I associate with, it's one of the hardest things to break.
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