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Recently, I sent a message to a woman on OLD mostly because she expressed interest in me. I'm not sure I would have written otherwise, but I figured what the heck. Since then, almost all of her replies have been one sentence or less. And sometimes a couple of days go by in between messages. At one point I stopped responding because her message was so abrupt. A week later, I got "How's it going?"
I have very little interest in continuing this, and likely won't. I'm just curious why someone would bother. The way I see it, if there is genuine interest, you should be writing more than that, and if there is no interest you shouldn't be writing at all.
I know too that it's better to move past the online stage fairly early on, but she's given me no reason to want to do that.
I would stop wasting my time with this one. Either ask for the number, or be done with it. The point of exchanging messages on OLD is to get the number to set something up for a real life date. Chit chatting back and forth for weeks does nothing.
She is waiting for you to make a move and ask her out. Geez. Why do guys think we have the time or interest to mindlessly chat with a stranger for weeks on end. Meet us, decide if you want to date us, and if not, step off!
Why don't women suggest meeting and stop putting all the onus on the guy if y'all are so interested?
I have. Many many times. A lot of guys don't like it. Some even panic and say, "but..but..can''t we TALK some more first?"
When we did meet, 9 times out of 10 the guy invariably lacked confidence and assertiveness. I was always so embarrassed for them. I don't do it any more.
I act like the woman in the OP. I lose interest and message less and less because there is no point going on. He's already lost me.
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I have. Many many times. A lot of guys don't like it. Some even panic and say, "but..but..can''t we TALK some more first?"
When we did meet, 9 times out of 10 the guy invariably lacked confidence and assertiveness. I was always so embarrassed for them. I don't do it any more.
I act like the woman in the OP. I lose interest and message less and less because there is no point going on. He's already lost me.
Same thing happens to me a lot. I talk for two days with a woman and when is have the audacity to ask her to meet, she flakes and wants to talk more. But at least it saves me from wasting money on her when she ain't that interested.
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