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Me about 40 minutes after I dropped her off: Hey did you have a good time? lol you don't have to be nice
Her: Lol yeah I did, there were a lot of people though
Me: I'm antisocial too but I hide it fairly well lol Are you interested in meeting again? this time waaay less people. We can do something much more relaxed than today
Her: Yeah, maybe when I'm off work again or when I get my car lol I almost passed out on the ride home
Me: You can be upfront if you don't want to, really no hard feelings but if you do want to hang out again, awesome
and yeah I'm really tired, If we had done the cave tour, I would not have made it out the other side lol
Her: Well we'll see and yeah me too, thats a lot of walking and it would've been so dark
Me: Idk why riding rides takes so much energy out lol anyway, you're really cute and I wanted to kiss you when I dropped you off but I can't read you very well haha
Her: Lol well thanks, I'm probably going to sleep now or I'll pass out
Does that change your opinion of the situation? lol
All it does it make me feel like you were trying a little too hard here. She seems fine, maybe open to going out again, but mostly worried about "passing out" from being high.
First of all, asking her three times if she REALLY had fun is a sign of insecurity. Don't do that anymore.
I also probably would not have texted all that only 40 minutes after you dropped her off.
Just wait a day or so, text her again with a specific plan, then see what she says.
OP, relax. Stop over-analyzing, and hand-wringing.
Do you know what her work schedule is? She said maybe next time she's off work. Do you know when that is? If not, your next step would be to find out, and to ask her if she wants to do something on her next day off.
Suggest something tame, very tame, quiet, without crowds of people. See what's happening in your town; check out the museums, see if there's an interesting exhibit. Combine that with lunch or an early casual dinner. Throw in a walk in the park, maybe. If you managed to keep the conversation going for a 2.5 hr. car ride out to the amusement park, you must be a good conversationalist. Anyway, you say the two of you have a lot in common, so take a date idea from one of those things you have in common.
First of all, asking her three times if she REALLY had fun is a sign of insecurity. Don't do that anymore.
As saying "You don't have to be nice," "You can be upfront if you don't want to." In her shoes I would think that you lack confidence. Most women find confidence attractive.
I also think labeling yourself as antisocial is a mistake. That's generally not a trait women seek in a date or partner.
Honestly, I'm surprised she agreed to be in a car with a total stranger after 5 hours. But I kinda think you should've at least went for the kiss good night instead of the hug.
Also, you have to factor in that you both got super stoned, and it will make you quiet and out of it. I'm not sure that was such a good idea for a first date either.
But you seem to be over-analyzing the situation. Relax. Don't sweat and read too much into texts. Just plan a date for the next go around and go from there.
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