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DeCastro, I think there is an important question to be asked here. Have you had sex before?
Don't laugh, but we have been surprised many times by an OP asking the same question as you, but when probed, we learn that he 1) has never had an intimate encounter of any kind with a woman; 2) has never had a woman as a friend; 3) suffers from crippling social anxiety; and 4) thinks that "acquiring" a woman for sex will solve all of his social problems.
Be honest, is this you?
Nah I have had sex before. I had a fwb situation with a much older woman when I was 26, but I started to fall for her and she treated me like crap after I fell for her then she ended it
Nah I have had sex before. I had a fwb situation with a much older woman when I was 26, but I started to fall for her and she treated me like crap after I fell for her then she ended it
Defeats the whole purpose you violated the core tenenat the relationship was built upon.
We all know that guy who just sort of has "it." Just an overall appeal.
Let's be real, the OP is looking for someone for purely physical attraction, he must know his target group will be exactly the same. Neither is less or more shallow and it is what it is. It may take a whole but if this is the goal then it is.
Go to the bar sober 9 pm or later and sit down with a beer and LISTEN. Then, pick up the woman who is bitching about her husband and complaining she never gets sex at home, or is talking about leaving her husband or bf cause she is not happy. Always at least one in the bar and always pretty much guaranteed. After 9pm so all the other guys have bought her drinks all night and she is ready to go, but not too drunk for sex.
Women have the birth control pill, men don't. Women can avoid pregnancy if they don't want it.
All men can do is rubber up and hope the condom is infallible.
True, but no method is 100% (although the pill is generally effective) and pill does have some bad side effects for some. It's why I got my tubes tied. I was done fooling with all that.
There is a product called Vasalgel, I've been watching for news of this for probably a decade now. It's a simple one-time injection that temporarily sterilizes a man, and is easily reversible with a second injection if he changes his mind. I suspect the reason it hasn't made it through the process to market here in North America, is that it's not going to be anywhere near as profitable as women's hormone based products that have to be renewed periodically and continue to bear a cost on an ongoing basis.
But if we could just get it available...it is said to be as effective as the pill or better. As a mother of sons, I've always wished they had an option that let them be as in control of their reproductive capabilities, as women have with pills and other hormone products. It is unfair.
EDIT: Little under a decade. The story in WIRED that I originally read about it, was in 2011. So like 6-7 years.
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This is where guys mess it up. I would advise to not put in your profile that you're not looking for anything serious. I would say you're open to whatever happens. From the women I've had this discussion with, the "not looking for anything serious" comes off to women that the guy just wants to sleep with them. All my female friends/acquaintances have admitted that they want to have sex more than the guy does, but they don't, because the guys don't even try to woo them or treat them like a human being. The women have told me that's the big difference between a guy sleeping with them before date 3 or not sleeping with them at all. It's all in how the guy treats them. If he's not putting in the effort to show that she's special, even if he has 10 other women in his orbit, than why should I offer him my body?
It's all about how you treat them. Sure, there's women that are attracted to the douche guy, but most women are attracted to a guy that they can talk to, have commonalities with, and most importantly, feel relaxed and comfortable with. That still doesn't mean that it will lead to anything long-term, or even a second date, but this is what the majority of women are looking for.
I find it difficult to find a woman to have a fling with because almost all of them are looking for a relationship. There is nothing wrong with relationships but I would rather have a fling right now. Anytime I message a woman on a dating site, she doesn’t answer. I say in my profile that I don’t want anything serious so if I talk to a woman she won’t think I am leading her on. I hear these dating coaches say you have to be straightforward with these women and tell them the first time that you meet them that you just want sex. This never works. It must work for some guys, because I know guys that just easily get women to hookup with them left and right. Must be nice
One way to do it is to go to parties, and talk to women.
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