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Well, not only the one woman I know, but people I've known (or known of) that I could easily imagine doing something like this...
If you get out of it having paid for one meal more than you ought to have, then you've gotten off cheap, because they are users. Sometimes crazy ones. That is the kind of person who does this...a user.
Users exist across all genders, and they work whatever game they can to get whatever they are trying to get. It should not be this shocking thing that there are people in the world who, given the chance, will walk all over you.
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In Los Angeles? I don't think so.
Or anywhere that I've lived so far. I've never actually seen it happen. Not sure why you seem to feel I have friends who do this? I an answering others' assertions. Should be pretty clear but if you're still not understanding this, let me know and I will try to clear it up.
Because you brought it up. It seems to be something you were aware of and a lifestyle you're familiar with. It's not anything I know anything about (or even heard of outside of here), so, would never have occurred to bring it up.
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Perhaps...
From where I sit and what I've seen it is certainly believable and I would surmise that there is a lot of stuff my circle doesn't share nor talk freely about. I certainly wouldnt want to admit that I hustled someone for a dinner.
I too think it is one of those urban legend things that makes for a cheap and easy pop magazine article to be like, look at those golddiggers in LA, NY, etc.
The reality is, going out with a person several times until you have a dinner date to get free food is pretty unlikely, and it's completely bizarre if you do what most normal people do, which is date peers.
Because you brought it up. It seems to be something you were aware of and a lifestyle you're familiar with. It's not anything I know anything about (or even heard of outside of here), so, would never have occurred to bring it up.
No. I didn't bring it up. I answered another poster who claimed he knew women who went out 4 times per week to get free dinners. HTH clear things up.
I had people suggest I go out with a guy and get the free meal he offers.
They could've just been joking.....but...eh the cynic in me doubts that.
I always passed.
Hold out for a movie and a backrub. But first, flowers.
Right after I divorced in 1983, I dated three men for about eight months before I settled on just one of them who is now my husband, and we have now been married for 31 years. However, I had been friends with all three of those men for years before the divorce, so it wasn't like they were just-met casual hook-ups and it wasn't like I had sex with all three of them in a single week. In fact, there was just one month that I had sex with even two of them. (Not at the same time, though, as I ended the sexual part of the relationship with one before going on to the other.) Btw, they all knew about the others, so although I did not go into details, there was no lying going on.
I would, however, have had a problem dating anyone who treated sex very casually -- and I would still feel that way now if I were ever single again.
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With the advent of popular dating sites/apps like Tinder, women dating 3 guys at once is the norm. Maybe I'm a prude but I have a problem with this. Guys are rendered disposable. I've heard conversations where women talk about quickly swiping left and how dating sites/apps are pointless to them. I think dating sites/apps are just a tool for women to catch a big fish. If you aren't a big fish you are tossed back into the water. Thus, the modern dating scene is largely diluted.
I've never dated 3 women at once so I wouldn't be interested in a woman doing so. I think it could be a challenge nowadays to still find young wholesome women.
Well, because we don't live in bubbles. We have friends, family members....we all know many, many, many people. Friends talk. If I had a friend who was dating four different guys a week, as a routine, to get dinner I'd know it.
It really is a practice in hyperbole. Anything can happen RARELY, you might hear rarely of a date showing up having lied about his or her gender, to throw one crazysauce example out there. But to worry about such over the top "possibilities" as imminent and large-scale *is* silly baring *evidence* of this as a bigger thing.
Is this one of you current missions? To debunk the whole dating for free dinners thing? I know this must irritate the hell out of you because you brought it up for no reason and want to shut up anyone that says it's true.
FYI I do think a miniscule amount of women do this, not even bother worth mentioning.
Hold out for a movie and a backrub. But first, flowers.
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Not so fast...he might think nothing of throwing in that $300 replacement key you need.
Not even gonna lie....I laughed Rbccl lol.
You guys are hilarious.
Lmao.
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I an answering others' assertions. 
