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With us, things just seem to click starting on the first date. I felt like I had known her all my life and she told me after we got married that she had felt the same way but didn't want to tell me.
Hmmmm......Maybe a better question is to ask, "Commit to What?"
There are many assumptions of what the commitment may entail and some may be unrealistic for some people.
If you want to go deeper than that, maybe another question to ponder is, "What is the value of a commitment in a relationship?", when we know people grow and change and not necessarily together.....
As I get older and see the dating scene change in urban settings (online dating, casual dating) where we have too many options, we are getting much more shallow, picky, superficial, unsure, indecisive, etc. Even if there's a fair amount of chemistry, we seem to be hesitant.
As a consequence, the way we communicate and even our values change.
So I'd like to ask the men, in this day and age, what are the qualities in a woman that you look for? What are some of the traits or behaviors of a woman that makes you attracted to them so much that you want to commit to them fully?
As a reference, what kind of person are you (outdoorsy, career oriented, sports loving, artistic, musical, scientific, intellectual)? And do you look for women with similar interests and/or career fields?
On the flip side, what are some of the worse deal breakers?
I'm a 38 year old male. For me, I was looking for the following.....
-Adventurous (likes thrill rides at amusement parks)
-Healthy/active (good diet and often exercises)
-Fun personality (going out to clubs, plays, and Jazz fests)
-Career oriented (capable of earning at least $40k/year)
-Educated or smart (smart enough to carry on an intelligent conversation)
-Clean cut conservative look (no tattoos, no non-ear piercings)
-Liberal personality (hippy mentality without actually looking like a stereotypical hippy)
I've found that many of my closest matches were nurses, doctors, therapists, and teachers. My wife is a therapist and a former educator.
In all honesty, we all have different "types" that we are attracted to. There's really no right or wrong answer to this question. What's "perfect" for me might be "dull/boring" to someone else.
To answer your question directly, some guys simply do not wish to settle with 1 woman for life (no matter how "perfect" she is). Many guys get bored, simply put....
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