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It depends on how the guy is communicating. I no longer do online dating because of the superficiality of it all. For example, clearly everyone is talking to multiple people at the same time. If a guy calls me "sweetly" or "babe" in the first few messages, comments on something physical/sexual, or pulls out random pickup lines, there is no way I'm going to meet with that guy. I've only met up with two guys in person and I've decided to meet them because they spoke to me very formally and respectfully and had the right pace of messaging politely, then asking for number, texting consistently but not excessively, etc. Nobody wants to feel like "one of many" but unfortunately you are when you are online and everyone's value kind of goes down when you have so many options. In the end, it's sickening. Meeting people in person the old fashioned way is much better when it comes to determining true chemistry and attraction.
It depends on how the guy is communicating. I no longer do online dating because of the superficiality of it all. For example, clearly everyone is talking to multiple people at the same time. If a guy calls me "sweetly" or "babe" in the first few messages, comments on something physical/sexual, or pulls out random pickup lines, there is no way I'm going to meet with that guy. I've only met up with two guys in person and I've decided to meet them because they spoke to me very formally and respectfully and had the right pace of messaging politely, then asking for number, texting consistently but not excessively, etc. Nobody wants to feel like "one of many" but unfortunately you are when you are online and everyone's value kind of goes down when you have so many options. In the end, it's sickening. Meeting people in person the old fashioned way is much better when it comes to determining true chemistry and attraction.
How is that any different? In-person, they can still be talking to other people, lol.
With online dating, you still have to meet in-person and go on a 1st date/meet to determine attraction and chemistry.
Fair enough. I wish they would please just talk to whoever it is they're meeting with and stop wasting my time. I mean that's what the swipe feature is for, so you don't have to talk to people you're not interested in.
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Fair enough. I wish they would please just talk to whoever it is they're meeting with and stop wasting my time. I mean that's what the swipe feature is for, so you don't have to talk to people you're not interested in.
Um, I usually don't know if I'm interested until I have talked to someone for a bit. That's what generates my interest. It's the entire point of chatting with someone. A couple of pics might make me look, but its not enough for me to want to meet you.
I love online dating and have had a lot of great experiences on it, but I dont get why people join these apps just to chat and never actually meet up. It's very dishonest and wastes people's time
How do you know they do not chat or meet up? Surely all you know is that they had no interest in chatting or meeting up with _you_?
Perhaps if you are noticing a lot of people not interested in chatting or meeting - on a site full of people chatting and meeting - then the common denominator is you?
How do you know they do not chat or meet up? Surely all you know is that they had no interest in chatting or meeting up with _you_?
Perhaps if you are noticing a lot of people not interested in chatting or meeting - on a site full of people chatting and meeting - then the common denominator is you?
Oh no, I had my fair share of dates. Must've had dozens by now, while the amount of people who chat with no intention of meeting up is still in the single digits. And clearly I'm not the only one complaining about this, since a lot of people stated this in the topic
And I'm not talking about people who have no interest in chatting with me, rather those who only have interest in chatting, but once you suggest to meet up they're not interested. But then keep chatting. Me thinks they just want texting buddies more than anything else
Um, I usually don't know if I'm interested until I have talked to someone for a bit. That's what generates my interest. It's the entire point of chatting with someone. A couple of pics might make me look, but its not enough for me to want to meet you.
Yeah usually it takes some time to figure out if you like the other person's personality or not. From experience, if a girl immediately gives her number, that means she's looking for something that's not a relationship lol
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