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It has been a yr and a half since our break-up. It was not on good terms since he cheated on me with a common friend, and smeared me to his friends and family to preserve his image. He still emails me (i kept my email open for bills and stuff) every now and then esp on special occasions like during my bday and christmas with "i miss you", "you're still the one, "im hurting too" blah blah but I never replied bec of his inconsistencies; I need the time to heal. He sent me gifts and cash too and he had it delivered to my place but I never used it; just stored it in a box in my closet. It is just not the same anymore, and returning it seems immature. Why does he still continue communicating with me and giving me presents even if he is now with this woman?
I think you need to return the gifts. He may still be hopeful and you are sending him mixed messages by keeping them. He doesn't know you aren't using them. Send them back with a brief, polite note and keep doing it. This would be fair to everyone BTW.
And you, by not returning the gifts but keeping them stored, and not telling him outright to buzz off and stop with the nonsense, indicates that subconsciously you still have feelings for him and cannot let it go.
Maybe reach out to him and see what's going on, and perhaps reconciliation.
It has been a yr and a half since our break-up. It was not on good terms since he cheated on me with a common friend, and smeared me to his friends and family to preserve his image. He still emails me (i kept my email open for bills and stuff) every now and then esp on special occasions like during my bday and christmas with "i miss you", "you're still the one, "im hurting too" blah blah but I never replied bec of his inconsistencies; I need the time to heal. He sent me gifts and cash too and he had it delivered to my place but I never used it; just stored it in a box in my closet. It is just not the same anymore, and returning it seems immature. Why does he still continue communicating with me and giving me presents even if he is now with this woman?
It's all about him.
People who behave this way, who cheat and lie and try to blame others for their bad choices, must be seen in a good light by others. It's a requirement for their egos.
He probably doesn't want YOU to hate him too, even though he's treated you like crap. So he reaches out and tries to play nice.
You can't allow it. You need to put a stop to the gifts etc. especially if you aren't using them.
Send him one brief and very direct message saying, "Please do not send me any more gifts. I have moved on, and you should too."
Why are you complaining? You are enjoying it, and enabling his behavior.
You could keep your email, but mark his email as a spam, you could return all his gifts, AND you could tell him firmly to stop all that. Right? But you are not.
Who is to blame?
He is obviously a chronic cheater: first cheating on you, now on "this" woman, but something tells me you want him back...
It has been a yr and a half since our break-up. It was not on good terms since he cheated on me with a common friend, and smeared me to his friends and family to preserve his image. He still emails me (i kept my email open for bills and stuff) every now and then esp on special occasions like during my bday and christmas with "i miss you", "you're still the one, "im hurting too" blah blah but I never replied bec of his inconsistencies; I need the time to heal. He sent me gifts and cash too and he had it delivered to my place but I never used it; just stored it in a box in my closet. It is just not the same anymore, and returning it seems immature. Why does he still continue communicating with me and giving me presents even if he is now with this woman?
Did you tell him you do not want those gifts? And are you actually divorced?
Tell him to stop and anymore gifts sent will be donated or thrown away.
If he continues refuse the them at delivery if you are present when they arrive.
You can also try to have the post office refuse mail from him to your address.
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