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Don't mean to hijack the thread, but I think a big reason that coupled men are often viewed as more attractive is due to the fact that they have shown themselves to be worthy of a mate.
When I found out he was coupled, I lost interest completely. We barely interacted. That's probably why we get along well now. I'm less stressed around him, because I know he's probably coupled and therefore see no tension. I'm not seeking a coupled man at all. This is anything but attractive to me. Had he not called me on Thursday, he'd probably still be burried in the back of my mind the same way he had been since December. I'm just surprised at how well we got long & his sudden interest in my well-being.
As far as posting specific dates/events, I have a good memory. I can recally pretty much every interaction I've had with every single person at work, especially when there has not been many of them in person. The reason why I recall them is because they coincide with a trip to his office each time, so it's a bit hard to omit the dates since the visits are abroad and I generally remember my trips abroad.
The OP didn't say he suddenly looked more attractive. She said he was much more chatty with her, and contrary to the past, showed concern about her well-being.
You're projecting the wrong thing onto this situation. Better luck on another thread, maybe.
My comment, admittedly was a hijack, not necessarily directly related to OP's initial query. I was responding to another poster.
The OP didn't say he suddenly looked more attractive. She said he was much more chatty with her, and contrary to the past, showed concern about her well-being.
You're projecting the wrong thing onto this situation. Better luck on another thread, maybe.
When I found out he was coupled, I backed off. We barely interacted. That's probably why we get along well now, because I'm less stressed around him, because I know he's probably coupled. I'm not seeking a coupled man at all. This is anything but attractive to me.
Great, sounds like problem resolved. However, if this fella continues to linger in your mind as a potential romantic partner, you might consider asking him about his relationship status.
You're projecting the wrong thing onto this situation. Better luck on another thread, maybe.
That's an interesting take, coming from a female posting in a thread in which the OP specifically asked for older men's opinions. Which is all I was doing. Coming in and telling me I'm wrong, when all I've done is speculate, seems unnecessarily hostile. The OP asked for men's opinions, I'm a man, I gave my opinion. Your tone reeks of "OP asked for a man's opinion, but I'll show her who's opinion she should be asking for, I'll show everyone."
When I found out he was coupled, I lost interest completely. We barely interacted. That's probably why we get along well now. I'm less stressed around him, because I know he's probably coupled and therefore see no tension.
Weird, this is pretty much exactly what I just stated, but you were quick to debate it. You backed off the tension, he felt that, he figured it was safe to relax more around you. He figured/figures you had finally gotten the memo that it anything, you will be just friends.
That's an interesting take, coming from a female posting in a thread in which the OP specifically asked for older men's opinions.
That's not how I read it, I thought it was just the title, as in 'let's talk about older men'.
Like--
"Big Foot: Fact or Fiction?"
I'm really not expecting Big Foot to answer.
Weird, this is pretty much exactly what I just stated, but you were quick to debate it. You backed off the tension, he felt that, he figured it was safe to relax more around you. He figured/figures you had finally gotten the memo that it anything, you will be just friends.
Well, he did ask me to go out for drinks twice in the past, so if he wanted to set boundaries as just "friends" only, he should not have asked in the first place (especially to get turned down twice).
Anyway, I was saying the tension is gone because he's also no longer annoyed that he got turned down, so there's no pressure on any end.
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