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I have feeling for my boyfriend but I have big doubts. We have been dating for a couple months and he seems to be projecting on the long term with me, he wants to see me often, he invited me to a trip in California to go to his best's friend wedding and exploring Napa Valley, to a work weekend later in September and already asked me if this would go further if our kids could be raised muslim, (I'm catholic). I am very scared he is more looking for a wife and mother than a loving relationship.
Let me explain: he has never told me he loved me, he works a lot and doesn't really do sweet stuff for me like flowers or sweet messages, he doesn't really make plans and expect most of the time for me to come to his place.. When we hang out or go out to dinner (which I most of the time plan) he is on this phone a lot and I feel I don't have his attention and sometimes feels lonely, if I don't make conversation there is nothing going on... I have a lot of affection for him but he makes me feel like he already takes me for granted, like he doesn't really care about making me happy just about me making him happy.. I try to always look nice for him, be accommodating of his work schedule, make plans but he doesn't show much appreciation and doesn't do it for me.. He even asked me do all the planning for that trip in California and didn't seem really excited about the research I did.
I think he likes me and definitely likes to have me around but I'm not sure he is really interested in a loving relationship.. Any input?
You date to see if you are compatible, and you can see you are not. Luckily it's only been 2 months - time to break up.
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Cut your losses now before you become even more entrenched.
Sounds like you are not a good match.
A good match = things in common, compatible temperaments, similar values, physical attraction, emotional needs being met on both sides, spiritual values similar.
WOW, OP, can you even imagine what your relationship will be like after you marry the guy? I mean, come on, he is not even attentive to you or your needs/desires now, and you're still I the "honeymoon" stage of dating. Sounds like he wants a mommy for his future kids and a mommy for himself.
Just because you get into a relationship, the goal is not to "make it work". As others have said, you date a person as long as you are compatible. Once you find out that you are not, that you are not happy, not enjoying yourself, whatever - you get out. You don't try to make something work that is not working. Big, big mistake.
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