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Well it sucks to be you.Sometimes one has to learn a really really hard lesson.When lots of people are telling you to stay clear of someone and you still don't listen to them..well that means that you're one of those that will have to learn the hard way...which you're doing now.
How long are you tied to that lease?I would think that if you were to get someone to take over your part in the lease..maybe that would work out for you?Meaning getting someone to take your place in living in the home?I take it that there are more then 1 bedroom.She could have the person as a roommate or something.Talk it over to your landlord and see if that is an option for you.
Thank you for the advice. No one wants to sign a 2 year lease and live with a stranger they might not get along with.
I have talked to 2 lawyers, and the only way I can get out of the lease is to pay what the landlord demands. $3500. I can't bring myself to pay it. So my only choice is to pray she finds a roommate and is able to make rent for 2 years.
I would consider 3500.00 a deal in getting the hell outta Dodge....expensive, yes, but so worth moving on with your life and getting away from hers. Although you're in therapy right now, it seems counter productive to have to live with that train wreck another 2 years. It's truly the only way the healing can begin. Consider it a fresh start to making positive choices in your life.
Thank you all for your comments. I expected the tone of most of them. I agreed with most of them too. I don't know why I am self destructive. I saw all the red flags. I wish I could tell you why I thought so little of myself that I remained. Was it the good sex alone, and I figured I would put up with the rest? (yeah, I still have a strong sex drive at 60) Was it the thought of being alone again? Was it being terrified of dying alone in an apartment or house with no one around that cared?
My therapist and I have work to do. But really, thank you for your criticisms. I read them almost every day for a cold slap in the face.
OP, if at this point you met a fine upstanding woman of good character who then went on to genuinely love you, that would make you so uncomfortable you would have to sabotage the relationship.
Thank you all for your comments. I expected the tone of most of them. I agreed with most of them too. I don't know why I am self destructive. I saw all the red flags. I wish I could tell you why I thought so little of myself that I remained. Was it the good sex alone, and I figured I would put up with the rest? (yeah, I still have a strong sex drive at 60) Was it the thought of being alone again? Was it being terrified of dying alone in an apartment or house with no one around that cared?
My therapist and I have work to do. But really, thank you for your criticisms. I read them almost every day for a cold slap in the face.
This is really good. Really good. I am glad that you are taking the time to reflect and learn about yourself and others. I do that too (maybe a little too much) but I think it does help.
OP, if at this point you met a fine upstanding woman of good character who then went on to genuinely love you, that would make you so uncomfortable you would have to sabotage the relationship.
IMO.
That is your opinion, and you are entitled to it. But you are wrong.
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