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I actually know one. Not those exact words, but she was dating a guy...was talking about him wanting to "test drive" her, dating-wise. And she tells us, "If he wants to test drive this, he better buy me (named off a big, name brand necklace)." Laughter ensued. Of course, she said that expensive piece of jewelry was an equivalent to "commitment" from the man in her eyes.
And there's no way she was snapping back sarcastically at a gross and uncalled for comment, right?
Are you also a trophy? If so, you have a fighting chance. Is it bad? No, you'll be making an implied agreement with another adult.
I have recently observed other men who have been swarmed over by younger ladies. So, yes I must say that I am a trophy myself [in comparison to those other men].
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What do you mean by "trophy" wife? Yes, it's a serious and respectfully asked question.
The inter-web says: "a young, attractive wife regarded as a status symbol for an older man".
When the day comes, I will be looking for a trophy wife.
Is that bad?
Of course you want the best wife possible, in terms of personality, looks, shared values, financial stability, etc. What you can get depends on what you bring to the table. I'm dating again nearly two years after losing my husband, who was 15 years older and, similarly to you, I was pretty sure I'd outlive him and was always open to the idea of another relationship after he left this earth. (We had plenty of time to talk during his last illness and he supported the idea.)
Just remember that the women you're likely to consider are also likely to have high standards and definite ideas of what they want. It may take awhile!
The inter-web says: "a young, attractive wife regarded as a status symbol for an older man".
I think your desire to find a trophy wife is only "bad" if it goes against your own conscience. It's nobody else's business, IMO. If you are conflicted about the moral status of your desire, give it some deep thought and do what your heart tells you. I'd go with that; it's usually right.
I, for one, could not care any less than I do about what people think about my choice of a man. It's not for them to say. I will say this though, I have been with a guy who was gorgeous, by almost anyone's assessment. He was boring and a dud. No amount of his outside could have made up for his barren insides. I learned a lot from that experience and have not made that mistake again.
Ya know, if I am with a man who is attractive on the outside but becomes ugly on the inside, I will leave him. Conversely, if I am with a man who loses the initial outward attractiveness that was one aspects of what drew my to him, e.g., he sustains major burns from a vehicle collision, but he retains his internal goodness, there is nothing that could separate me from him other than death.
Of course you want the best wife possible, in terms of personality, looks, shared values, financial stability, etc. What you can get depends on what you bring to the table. I'm dating again nearly two years after losing my husband, who was 15 years older and, similarly to you, I was pretty sure I'd outlive him and was always open to the idea of another relationship after he left this earth. (We had plenty of time to talk during his last illness and he supported the idea.)
Sorry to hear of your loss, you have my condolences.
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... Just remember that the women you're likely to consider are also likely to have high standards and definite ideas of what they want. It may take awhile!
As a woman in her mid-50s, I think it may be a thing. But whatever. You like what you like. My SO is a few year younger, but he didn't want a woman that outweighed him. You like what you like.
The concern several women have expressed for the almost certain disappointment older men who may want to date younger women will face is, well, let's say touching. I hope the guys take heed
The concern several women have expressed for the almost certain disappointment older men who may want to date younger women will face is, well, let's say touching. I hope the guys take heed
They can go for it, why not? But if you want to know how we women feel about it, many of us having been there, it's not really that weird that we're going to answer honestly.
Guys "like what they like" and "want to be turned on" but so do we. And unless you're talking about a high schooler, most women don't "need" a man's money or think that "established" men are hotter no matter what the "established" man's age is, depending upon the age of the woman. If we're talking averages, there's a sort of ceiling there too.
Anyone can approach anyone, there's no law against a simple hello AFAIK.
My boyfriend is my Mother's age. My Mom is coming to visit me this weekend, and will be meeting him for the first time. That should be...interesting.
DO post details of the visit, if you feel so inclined.
I have a good friend who married a man 35 years her senior. She was very young when she met him, and he was a widower who kept himself in good shape. They once figured out that he turned 40 on the day she started kindergarten. He had a son older than she was.
They were happy until his death at 79. Had two children who were teenagers when he died. It has been nearly ten years, and she dates again, but she loved him and still mourns him.
He was a bit older than her parents, both of whom liked him.
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